What would you do if you found out you had a brother or sister out there that you had known nothing about? Would you want to get to know them if your parents discouraged it or to even try and find them if you had a name but no details (obviously much easier nowadays with Facebook etc)? Would your answer be different acc to the circumstances in which they were born (maybe your dad or mum was married before and had that child but no longer has contact or your sibling is illegitimate)?
Am wondering because a family friend who is my age has a sister from her dad’s previous marriage.. He married and divorced the mother of that child and doesn’t even admit the daughter is his.. I would be so curious if I knew I had a brother or sister out there.. I’d be dying to meet them and find out what they’re like..
Have you not got another 'living with inlaws' thread to start foaming at the mouth over?? Most ppl would say THAT'S an indicator of real mummy/daddy issues..
Unlike some, I have a very healthy relationship with my dad thanks (how many on here could say theirs would be 100% supportive of them marrying **whoever **they liked, regardless of race or caste)..
I mentioned this situation has actually happened to someone I know.. Suppose I should feel sorry for those who’ve been so sheltered they can’t believe it ever happens (and how funny that it’s the same ppl who can’t believe a woman can survive after divorce or that all love marriages are doomed as well Perhaps you should try to set foot outside that rock you’ve been living under)
In cases of divorce in our community it's not exactly common for the kids from both marriages to mix with each other so not that surprising to not know about the kids a father might have had before the second marriage..
It's quite unusual for divorcees in desi culture to be on speaking terms anyway years and years down the line (prob as divorce is the absolute last resort anyway and usually only ever done when no other choice in situations such as extreme violence or extreme infidelity).. Am just wondering how many of us would be curious about dad (or mum's) previous marriage/family..
The illegitimate kid thing is obviously much more an issue in non-desi families (tho it's not unheard of for Indians or Pakistanis to get white women pregnant when living in the US/UK/Europe either anymore.. I think EDAL mentioned his uncle had and there was someone from Pak who mentioned her dad had brought them to live there and she had no contact or even an address for her mum, maybe that mother has had more children since then as well.. just two recent examples from GS..)
Perhaps you should try to set foot outside that rock you’ve been living under)