Second Marriage for children

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P_G January 13, 2011, 3:27pm 1

medical reports says that u cant be a mother and yours husband want to do 2nd marriage for children

then what will be yours choice ?

1>its ok ..

2> u will be prefer to adopt child ..

3> break the relation

same question for Mans

what will be yours choice

2nd marriage

adopt child

break the relation ( in case when you want to do 2nd marriage and yours 1st wife dont agree with u )

mama_ki_dua January 13, 2011, 3:31pm 2

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Adopt or break the relation

system January 13, 2011, 3:37pm 3

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ADOPTION....

yesterday i was talking to my friend about the same topic that i dont understand when people cant have their own child then why dont they go for adoption?...

if you are dying to have a child then adopt one of the children who is all alone in the world ....waiting for someone to come and give him/her the love n affection of parents....

Hadeel January 13, 2011, 3:37pm 4

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[QUOTE]
same question for Mans
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Com'on all mans , yours choice is also asked..

-I'll rather adopt or break the relation!

system January 13, 2011, 3:38pm 5

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ps. the man who wants to go for 2nd marriage for kids is lame.

Deeba1234 January 13, 2011, 3:41pm 6

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Adopt or break the relation.. Imo if he did really love me he wouldn't see me as just a tool to make a baby anyway..

Deeba1234 January 13, 2011, 3:47pm 7

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Totally agree.. that's how I see it as well..

rizla86 January 13, 2011, 3:51pm 8

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Adoption isn't that straightforward, there are some issues that need to be overcome. In Islam when an adopted child grows up he/she become a non-mehram for father/mother, which would make it tough for everyone to live under the same roof. My cousin recently adopted a girl and they had her nursed from her husband's sister so they got around the non-mehram issue, but not everyone gets that lucky.

Reha January 13, 2011, 4:09pm 9

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Thats very interesting.

I would opt for adoption or leave. No sense holding someone up when you know you cannot share.

blessed2006 January 13, 2011, 4:12pm 10

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If both husband and wife are sensible they will go for the adoption option. kisi yateem besahara bache ka bhalla hi ho jaye ga.

blessed2006 January 13, 2011, 4:15pm 11

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that really depends on the age. if someone adopts a new born baby and the new mother breast feed him/her then she becomes his/her razai maa. i am not sure about father but in islam adoption is allowed.

sarab January 13, 2011, 4:37pm 12

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It's a sad situation but having a child is not our sole purpose. Children are a blessing, so is money, good health etc. Our sole purpose of existance is to worship Allah, so it does not make anyone less of a person if they can't have children. If I was in that situation I would expect my husband to happy with only me, if children are that important he can divorce me and marry someone else.
I know people always say adoption but as bad as it sounds I would not want anyone elses child, I would want only husbands baby, so I'd rather live a childless life then ruin some poor childs life because I dont have the capacity to really love them.

rizla86 January 13, 2011, 4:50pm 13

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yeah but in order to breastfeed you need to be pregnant first? isn’t that right?

sarab January 13, 2011, 4:53pm 14

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Thanks to modern medicine no. I watched a documentary about a women who adopted a baby from china and took tablets so she could breastfeed.

rizla86 January 13, 2011, 5:14pm 15

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Hmm right, I didn't know that.

Deeba1234 January 13, 2011, 5:50pm 16

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Some women can lactate without being pregnant and as someone else pointed out it’s also possible to get tablets to get a woman to produce breast milk..

FairyTale January 13, 2011, 6:32pm 17

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very tough situation but i think i cannot take his right to be a father from him. IFFFFF he comes and tells me that he needs kids and wants to do a 2nd marriage, i wont stop him.

Okay i need the hardestttt stone heart to see that happening, but i should not forget that its his right and his reason for 2nd marriage is very much valid. :(

P_G January 13, 2011, 6:35pm 18

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^ you r fairy : D

TLK January 13, 2011, 6:36pm 19

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In a married life, one person's choice should not matter. Husband and wife should make a decsion with cool mind and what is good for the family.

I know that it looks like that many women will not allow their husbands to go for the second marriage if they want children but its not always true. There got to be cases where wife allowed/asked her hubby to marry again.

I personally think that 3rd option should never be there. 2nd is a good option but in case that husband is filthy rich and he wants his real blood to get the inheritance of his wealth, I can see why and how 1st option becomes a valid option.

Over all, its a very tough question to answer.

ArabJaani January 13, 2011, 6:36pm 20

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husband is dumb enough to even think about marrying the 2nd time. He is way too selfish. He has no respect towards his wife. like why not adopt instead of whining like a baby...some aadmi r so chalay lollll