Second marriage and acceptance of the spouse..

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I think we as human beings have this ability to move on no matter what & find someone else we might like. But then again it varies from person to person. Some choose to hold on to it & some decide to move on.

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Boy number 1, 2, lizard, paki immigrant guy, IT guy, and still going strong.

All in last 3-4 years.

It can be done.

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I would gladly remarry if the right rishta came along or if my gora bf proposes, whichever happens first. But I doubt the former will happen since desi culture dictates that because I'm in my mid 30's and with a kid, my ovaries will automatically fall out when I turn 36 and my child is messed up because there is no "father" around.

I won't settle for mediocre.

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If a guy really loves you he won't care that you've been married before.. gora or otherwise..

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I guess this is a very culture driven phenomenon. In the west, its not considered an issue at all. In our desi culture, it really is a challenge for a woman at least , to make a move to secure her life.

Now , I realize that its a real thing that life does move on. but what is the level of difficulty involved? perhaps it is easier for those who have had an extremely turbulent relationship and the previous partner totally broke their trust and love. in which case the woman will have to counter thoughts of not being able to trust a man again .

But if the previous relationship ended amicably ( which hardly happens ) or due to death of spouse, it must get extremely hard to move on from that love and memories.. no ?

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^Depends on the person..

I think if my relationship was to end amicably it might be easier for me to move on than if it was turbulent.. less trauma and all that do deal with..

Everyone is different though and our thought processes work differently.. I'm not the sort of person to dwell on this sort of stuff but then again I was in relationships before marriage so that's also affected the way I look at things..

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yes I think you touched on the right thing Deeba. Alot of times , we are not known to ourselves even , we dont realize how capable we are of dealing with the most difficult situations even. But when we go through them , it sort of dawns on us that we are capable of handling our self after a failed relationship. A long time back , a friend had shared this same thought which didnt make sense to me , but now it does.