Re: Second marriage and acceptance of the spouse..
Because of the desi culture. White, black, Hispanic etc…other races seem to be having no problems getting married a 2nd time with kids. But with desis, thanks to negative attitudes towards divorcees, it’s much harder. Also in desi families, generally the approval of parents/siblings/extended family etc. plays a MUCH greater role than others. So if if a guy himself may not have issues with a divorcees…often parents and other elders won’t even consider it b/c after all…what will the community say.
P.S. Its much harder to lie and pretend that the new bahu was a virgin when she already has kids.