Second Chances and Egos

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There is a junaid jamshed song that comes to mind. I think Us Paar? Kehdo jo man mein hai? Something like that.

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This one ?

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Hahahaha! Good one! I'm actually surprised by how Bollywood/Lollywood I've become during the whole process- I'm like a lovesick puppy and I hate it. I'm usually such a sane, rational and CONTROLLED person!

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genuinely try to get close to his mother and sister, if you know them and if you really do see him in your future.
stay away from bollywood\lollywood. You need to stay controlled and rational and not emotional since you aren't his wife yet because staying practical will get you ready for any potential heartbreak because there is a tiny chance he is not interested or just flirting around. I hope Allah sees him in your future and makes it happen though.

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Well neither of you seem to be in the age group where you should still wait for a good time before one of you spills the beans. See if you can initiate by asking him how he would feel about starting it all over again and on a clean slate ..

There is no harm in a girl initiating a conversation. You are the one who rejected him initially, you are the one who is interested in him again, logically speaking , you should be the one opening this door.

Write to him an email if you are convenient that way. Or just speak to him over the phone. There is a difference in saying I love you and simply asking someone if its possible to start over again.

Even if there is a rejection , I dont see how this will harm you. you will get emotionally hurt , yes , but at least you will move on and come out of this cycle . know what i mean?

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this is totally wrong . dont make the first move

let him be the first because men are not even happy if you make the first move

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:hmmm:

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But if she has rejected him first it's extremely unlikely that he will make the first move.

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not necessarily

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really?

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yes if theres a possibility of both getting together

i think he will come forward

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if he's the love of your life I don't think he would think any less of you just because you made the first move and he might possibly help you along but don't get desperate if he gives you the cold shoulder and isn't meant for you.

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Second Chances and Egos

Hi all. Thank you soooooo much for your advice- I really appreciate it. I considered everything everyone had said on here with what I wanted and decided I needed a clear answer ASAP rather going months having a romance in my head and thinking "does he, doesn't he?" Anyway, I met him today and was honest with him. He said he found me really attractive but that he's looking for an emotional and spiritual connection with a future partner which he didn't have with me. I'm feeling okay at the moment but like I'd originally posted and mentioned afterwards, my ego is hurt from this rejection. I really, really, really like him and was so confident things were going to go really well. I'm feeling kinda numb. I'm convinced I'm going to be a spinster with lots of cats rather than husband and kids :'(

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Should've listened to you in hindsight I suppose but I'm very impatient and just had to make the move to find out once and for all... He did say that when men like someone romantically, they'll move the heavens and the earth to get them. So you had a very strong point.

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Don't regret it. its better that you found it now than later. If you haven't ask him and kept thinking about him, it would have been more hurtful.
I will just say move on, He is not meant for you.

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^exactly. You and he weren't in the same relationship. He saw you in a completely different way than you saw him. He doesn't feel the same way, it's okay. Mourn the loss for 2 months and don't see him. Totally pamper yourself and keep muspus happy and looking stellar. Give getting over this only that much time and then see it as an opportunity to find someone that is more right for you. Obviously he wasn't compatible. You got saved from a potential bad marriage where you two had no connection. Be thankful you didn't waste any time being hopeful.

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tauba kis kism kay malslay hn logon k sath.

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Welcome to life1.

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OP you were not shy when rejecting him, but now you’re too shy. I personally would stay away from this guy and the situation. I would be too afraid that he might be in it for revenge. But that’s just me. I wouldn't have an issue letting him know my feelings either.

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You blew him off, you want him back then tell him you were wrong and that you would wanna give it a shot again!!!

Just out of curiosity, if he had not bloomed, would you want another shot with this guy?!?