Re: Second Chances and Egos
Need help my fellow guppies. I was introduced to someone through a friend a couple of years ago and after a few conversations over the phone, told him we weren’t compatible and I wished him luck in finding someone soon. However, we ended up hanging around in the same crowd a few months later and I found that there was so much to this guy that I hadn’t known/hadn’t bothered finding out when we were talking. He was basically perfect for me. During our get togethers, he was always kind and polite towards me and I found myself falling for him eventually. Just as I’d worked up the courage to ask if we could start again, he turned really nasty towards me (making cutting remarks, etc.) and I ended up going cold turkey and blanking him for about 2 years. This was easy as he started hanging around in a different social circle. We carried on like this on out own until I bumped into him recently at a social event. I was surprised by how handsome he was and wanted to make amends and see if there was anything to him still or if he’d changed…
Anyway, to cut a long story short, we’ve met up recently and my god, I like him soooooo much. He seems to have moved on himself so much and I have a feeling he’s interested in me. HOWEVER, I think I wounded his make ego by rejecting him all that time ago and I don’t think he’ll ever tell me he likes me outright. I’m a typical Desi girl and believe the man should ask and the girl should be the shy, retiring type! So, what do I do? Do I bring up the past and apologise? How do I let him know I like him? And, at the same time keep my dignity intact?
Any advice appreciated.
But why did he suddenly get nasty towards you?
I’m not sure if it’s the ego being wounded because after the rishta rejection, you said you were hanging in the same social circles but he was very nice and friendly towards you.