I m not sure if this fits in General or in here. There’s something i want to share, as well as i would like an input & since it does involve, perhaps few of the flaws of our culture society i will share it here.
I know this girl since she was 12, now shes going to be 17 in few months. I have never met her, never seen her, the only contact i have with her is when ever she want (can) she calls me, usually this time period is every 4 months a single call.
With time, i started to know about her & i found out her dad was dead when she was 6-7, he was in forces before, got drug addict so her parents had an divorce when she was 1. Her dad use to see her but then he was no more.
When she was 8, her mother took sleeping pills in an attempt to suicide bcos she wanted to marry this other guy where her family didnt want her to. Bcos of the serious act, finally they allowed her. This girl still remebers the yellings of her step grandmother that she dont want her in his son’s house, so they sent her to boarding school.
If u dont wake up on time, or u dont arrange ur bed properly after u woke up, they used to lock the kids in washroom from morning to evening without a breakfast or lunch, just an 8 yr old kid & 4"x4" walls of toilet.
Later, her grandmother (nani) took her to their home, where she lived with her uncle & aunt (mamo & khala). Her uncle recently got married & she thinks he have changed, her khala is getting married soon & she told her to be strong, bcos she wont be here, her nani is an old lady & her mamo obiviously will be busy with his own family now.
When she came back from boarding she couldnt read, now she has recovered a lil & is in grade 10.
She started visiting her mother, she have 2 step brothers now, she thinks her father is an Okay kind of a guy from heart, but his language… ohh well the words that guy use’s will be sensored here anyway.
Now her mum wants her to live with them after she finishes her school, & she beleives her mum only wants her now bcos shes a helping hand, she want her to clean the house & baby sit the kids when shes on job. She loves her mum alot, & thinks shes still not with her. She\s not allowed to call her “mom” but Baji or Aapi.
Shes having a faith problems, (Why her, does God really exist etc). shes known as a girl whos mom married another guy & left the first & throw her away. Its common she hear alot of comments in school & from guys in neighborhood streets. Even her school teacher approched her in a wrong way.
Few years back she started to miss her dad alot & started to see him (illusions). When shes alone, she see him with her, he dosent speak or say anything, but he is there with her. She says hes getting old & now he has grey hair. With time, its now not only her dad, but she see other ppl as well, who ever passes away in neighborhood or in family, she see them, the illusions r strong & real. Although, these other ppl dont stay long, usually a week or two, but her dad is always there.
Sometimes, i dont know what to tell her, i have no answers on why it happened to her, or find a reasoning about what every one did was right under the circumtences.
She says its only me whom she can talk, i m easy to talk & perhaps the only who talk to her for no profit in anyway. She can just cry on the phone & all i can tell her is “Dont u worry everything gona be okay. u just concentrate on studies after few years get urself a job etc etc” … i think, neither my tone is that strong nor she beleives me anyway.
I just had her call last night, so probebly the next call i m getting is in another few months…maybe someone can tell me what to tell her, what not to ?
