Okay this is quite a sensitive topic, nobody likes being labeled “ugly” but some people cannot help the situation for good reason. SCARS!!!
Okay not sure about this one, as most lads would probably shy away if they saw a girl with facial scars, is this the same with girls? Naturally i would assume so, becuase a man with a scarred face has so many stereotypes as a villian. However i have a younger friend who is 22 years old and four years my junior. His Mother and father are strugling to cope with finding him a bride.
Like me he is an old veteran and has some nasty facial scars, but whereas i have scars all over and take pride in them… i’ve noticed he doenst like the way people see him. Perhaps becuase i have never really thought about these things it came across as a real shock to hear he has been rejected for rishta twice!
I really felt sorry for him, becuase it’s not his fault his face has a cut, it made me feel very angry that this poor lad is needed to have to look for some kind of surgery before he can get married.
Has the world really come to such vanity! I was married back in Pakistan when i left the army at 18 and i went back to the village and didn’t seem to cause as much of a stir, i wear my scars with pride but i am worried that desi people living in the UK have the mind to be so judgemental!
So heres the crunch question would you marry a partner with a scar?
In my case i would marry the girl even if she had a facial scar, so long as it was a decent and kind hearted person and the scar was something they couldn’t help… then who cares! It’s the heart that matters, but i am disturbed by some people here in the UK who are so heartless. This lad i know has been rejected twice here and it made me so angry i promised i would help him even if it meant getting him married from Pakistan.
Is thia just a Western Desi thing? or has it reached Pakistan too…?
And i’m not talking about acne scars or stuff like that becuase those are easy to treat, i men actuall scars like cuts, or burn marks etc.
Looks matter to some people more than others. It is cliched but looks do fade, whilst personality does not. Even when you are married something could happen to your other. There is no guarantee that looks will remain.
There is someone who will like him for who he is, not what he looks like. I personally would not be bothered by his looks if his personality was right for me.
I have a large scar on my arm from a childhood accident. It is still very visible and I hate it when people point it out, so I keep it covered. I wouldn't want someone to dismiss me because of some superficial scar.
Most people who have scars or burns get them treated to make them go away...im assuming he doesnt want to or doesnt have hte means to. How bad are the scars?
I would marry a guy with a scar on his face, if he was a kind decent guy. This may sound weird but i love scars, And behind each scar theres a story. My dad has a scar on his nose and next to his eye, And i love them he wouldnt be 'him' if he didnt have them. Theres a deep story behind it, He himself wanted surgery to get rid, I built up his confidence so much that he forgot about it. I love him the way he is.
Your friend should count his lucky blessings they rejected him simply because of a 'scar' imagine how vile they are if they turned him down simply because of a scar.
I know it can damage the confidence. But trust me you get people out there like me that adore them. And the story they bring. :)
I would tell the guy to have some confidence, cause many girls find that quality attractive! And like someone mentioned above...there is no guarantee that looks will last...but personality does! There was someone in my highschool that got into a major car accident and their face got totally crushed and needed reconstrucive surgery....and half his face is scarred up and mashed up :( And you know what...he is one of the nicest and sweetest guys I know...and that really just makes you overlook the other stuff! So there is worst stuff out there...and be content with what Allah (swt) has given you, and Inshallah he will find a great girl that just isn't into looks...and values him as an individual! :)
Scars don’t matter, one of my fingers is permanently damaged in the way it now looks after being broken, I have big scar one on my head after a childhood injury but doesn’t really matter…hasn’t affected my confidence other than I can’t get a really short haircut
If a person would be dismissive just because of scars then he/she isn’t worth the trouble anyway.
I think that is PLAIN stupid of them to reject him, but he will soon find someone better who would value him more as a person. Becuz inside matters more!!
In my case, my fiance is bald and I love himmmmmmmmmmm! he tried for hair transplant long time back and got a scar on his head but still no hair. He said that on our wedding day he will wear a wig & I dismissed it right away, i said no way!! U have an amazing personality and I love you for who u re, if people cant c that, there view is too narrowed down. They need to educate them-self and cross the line of physical appearance. My fiance is mashaAllah very confident and is never bothered by comments made by other people & I m very proud of him, I never feel bad that he is bald because thats what makes him HIM!
I have a scar just above my right eyebrow due to an incident when I was a child...It's nothing major but it's still slightly visible. It honestly doesn't bother me and no-one has ever mentioned it. I personally wouldn't judge a person based on any scars they might have.
When your friend was turned down, did they say the scars were the issue? If so, your friend should count himself lucky because he's much better off without such superficial people in his life.
As kind hearted as one is, you dont sleep with personalities. and being superficial is a by-product of having eyes. If you dont like that, feel free to gouge yours out.
