this is wat i did last time and everyone took this against me. I tried to spend most time with my kids but this went against me. even though u had tough time, i left pakistan happily and nothing against with my MIL. but months later i started to hear stories that MIL spread against me and which are 100% untrue. Now everyone has bad impression of me. I want to defend myself and not let her defame me. She is my chachi as well so its my whole family that finds out things about me.
there is no one i can really interact with. all relatives cousins are same. they will be with my MIL to be against me but in front of me against her. I tried to avoid their meetings in which they would discuss other relatives.