scared to go to pakistan

[Roshni]

Re: scared to go to pakistan

@redvelvet

If I recall correctly, I think you did argue with your husband about trivial things last time (eid clothes, etc) even though your MIL was more in the wrong. This time, I think you’d make life easier for yourself if you don’t argue over issues like clothes and gifts. Take some money with you that will be used for shopping or have your husband take you shopping. Don’t have any expectations from your in-laws especially you MIL. Don’t expect her to buy you clothes and if she does, don’t get upset that they’re not what you wanted. Don’t get upset if your MIL doesn’t give your child any gifts, she’s too young to remember these details and it’s more important for her to have parents who provide for her; that’s more than sufficient. Don’t expect any special hospitality or accommodations from your in-laws. Don’t expect that your in-laws should adhere to the standard of formality that you have. For instance, don’t get upset if husband’s sister or his khala our chachi or whomever did not come to visit you and your child; don’t keep track of such things. Silence not only speaks volumes, it also provides the spotlight for errant people. What that means is that if you remain silent and calm, it will make your MIL’s scheming and badtameezian stand out even more. Let her have the spotlight, give her the floor.

sorry but i think above is not me.