scared child

what do u do with a child who is scared of being around a person at childcare? lets say scared of another child there?

my daughter has always been a very independant person and does not mnid playing on her own at all.. when we’re at gatherings with a million bache laug, she doesnt mind playing on her own.. doing her own thing.. which is fine by me.. however, in the past few months i have noticed, if someone accidently touches or bumps into her, she’ll start whinging.. its ok for a bit, then it gets annoying..

i know this is happening because of a boy at her daycare. The poor tot is deaf and doesnt understand she doesnt want his hugs..which lead to him hitting her.. and her not wanting to go to daycare. I have also noticed, she makes excuses about tummy aches as soon as shes in the car and has an idea we’re taking her there…

she is COMPLETELY fine when the boy is not around

i have notifed the childcare once before.. and asked if they could move her into another room… it didnt happen… so im going to speak to them about it again

i just dont know what else i can do

Re: scared child

ummmm.... have you tried talking to her about how he is unable to hear her. Maybe she can learn some signs through which she can communicate "no hugs" to that kid. Or maybe you talk to the teachers to tell the kid no hugging your daughter, as she doesn't like it.

My daughter also doesn't like touching and hugging, even from girls.... so she runs away from them. I've told her to try and express herself more and telling them "no hug" when she doesn't want it. How old is your daughter?

Re: scared child

Is it possible to speak to the person in charge AND one of the boy's parents at the same time, explaining that your daughter and the boy are not understanding eachother? Then you can arrange some form of communication (e.g. ma tells her son that your daughter doesn't want hugs, and you tell your daughter that boy can't hear so can't understand what she means).

Re: scared child

you need to talk to the person in charge and make sure that boy in kept well away from her. poor thing must be so scared.

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hit him

Re: scared child

^ r u insane? hit a deaf poor kid.
yes Sadz u should def talk to the incharge if they can keep the two in diff rooms or something. or change the daycare. how old is ur dughter Sadz?

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^ yeah i have spoken to them and they are trying their best to arrange activities where both are distracted.

She's almost 3, so will be moving into another room in Jan, Inshallah. At the moment, its tooo late in the year to be changing her.. and she's so well adjusted to the minders and other kids, i think it would be unfair on her.

And hit the child? no way... he's deaf, and if he cant understand something, thats not his fault. I think the parents should have waited for the childcare to arrange a specialist for him... either that or there should be a specialist or someone who knows sign langauge right from the start. I think childcare providers should DEFINATELY look into such scenarios.

The boy is absolutely beautiful. He gets so excited to see Heba and me as well. He will always come and say 'hi' in his own way and 'bye' as well.

It's seriously not his fault...

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then may be try talking to Heba. she's young but might understand. tell her ways she can tackle it or signs she can use to stop him.