i hate it when pl know tht they have hurt someone and yet they dun say sorry or apologize u even if its by e mailing u and tryna get things straight then just disappearing on u and makn things worse…
m not saying to get flowers sing a song or u know all tht just a SORRY wud do .
but pl like to disappear and then figure out how to apologize i say y figure out aint it ez nuff to say ***SORRY ***???
andi am talkn bout CLOSE FRIENDS whoknoweach other nuff to understand how the other person will react
i dont have ego at all... whenever i have been at fault i immediately apoligized to my bff.. and whenever there was a misunderstanding and she was at fault or we both were at fault even then i apoligized and my habit has saved me lots of times...
mera poorana pooana pakistan se friend he … we used to play n same mahola lived n the same gali and became friends while taping dor bells when light jati thi but now i hate him kameena kutta him and his ego humesha yahi hota he … pak jaongi tu danish se pitwaongi use
if you are in usa then this ego is high time in our community.people really forget from where they actually came from and what are they here for.
we all here,leaving our country behind to earn money.so who ever is earning whichever way they are should be treated equally.
snik i am n toronto and my friend is n pak … i know him since like 10 12 yrs now we were only like 10 11 yrs old at tht tym… v fight alot but this tym hes being an ass its alays been his problem he always has prob n saying sorry to me he says sorry to other ppl but he has this ego thing or he just knows tht ih ate him when he doesnt accepts tht its his fault and now hes tryna annoy me…
but i hate it
good for you aishathat you can handle the sitaution. i think now it's better this way.
for me i have been given DHAKas 3 times. now i have learnt the ;esson. that it's not being good in this world.
the good person has her/his head down and the one who is wrong is roaming around with heads up DHANANA KER PHIRNA... HEHEHEHEHE
"I'm generally of the opinion that if you were sorry, you wouldn't have done it in the first place."
Dont really agree with that, bcos we r humans not robots, and humans r prone to making mistakes, bad decisions, expecially things that r said in the heat of the moment. Things can be immediately regretted, or take time to think and then regret your actions.
Yes, Aisha, one thing u should learnt absolutely from now, do NOT say sorry if it is NOT your fault, bcos then everytime u the other person just won’t even bother saying sorry and u will b expected to do so everytime. It will drive u mad eventually.
Why dont you give him time to cool off and come to his senses? Sometimes you have to shock people to make them realize their mistakes. If you're always the one apologizing and it truly is his fault then let him say sorry to you. I know he is a close friend and all but he will miss your friendship, realize his mistake and come around. Maybe even respect you more because he now knows you're not to be taken advantage of.
Wait and see how long it takes. Thats what I would do...mera dimaagh kharab hai jo mein har lardai mein sorry kahoon?
Also, Im JUST curious so please dont take offense to this question of mine: Do you have feelings for this guy?
This just happened to me last night. Someone that I thought was a close friend sent me a vicious message on FB (that was also addressed to 3 other friends of ours) blasting us for not coming to her house for afsos after her phupa died. What she didn't know is that I'm going to her house THIS weekend because I just moved to my university the day her phuppa died, so she made assumptions and then yelled at us about them, questioning my upbriging and stuff.
Being the ***** that I am, I was tempted to say stuff back but my friends calmed me down.
She hasn't apologized yet and I don't think she will for a while.
I dunno the details of what's exactly going on with your situation, but people tend to "disappear" (I'm guilty of doing it too when I get into a fight) becuase they hope that the person will calm down and hopefully realize what was going on. Sometimes it coudl just be that they want you to realize that it was YOUR fault, not always but sometimes. But most likely it's because they'd rather not say somethign that'll hurt your feelings becuase you're both upset. It's easier to stay away and calm down and THEN come talk about it.
Why dont you give him time to cool off and come to his senses? Sometimes you have to shock people to make them realize their mistakes. If you're always the one apologizing and it truly is his fault then let him say sorry to you. I know he is a close friend and all but he will miss your friendship, realize his mistake and come around. Maybe even respect you more because he now knows you're not to be taken advantage of.
Wait and see how long it takes. Thats what I would do...mera dimaagh kharab hai jo mein har lardai mein sorry kahoon?
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Also, Im JUST curious so please dont take offense to this question of mine: Do you have feelings for this guy**?
uuhhhh NOOOOOO!!!
i am married with 2 kids lolzzz
v both r like JOE & FB friends... not guna get 2gether EVER.....
Yes, Aisha, one thing u should learnt absolutely from now, do NOT say sorry if it is NOT your fault, bcos then everytime u the other person just won't even bother saying sorry and u will b expected to do so everytime. It will drive u mad eventually.
but now i hate him kameena kutta him and his ego humesha yahi hota he … pak jaongi tu danish se pitwaongi use 