well there are two friends...not been friends long but shared a lot..the guy's decent and all..religious and understanding..the goody-goody type in short...and the girls ok as well...she loves someone..this goodie guy confesses his love to her and she declines..dude knows she's in love with this guy who at tht time was not in touch with this girl due to some misunderstandin and accordin to the girl he'd betrayed her...the lover boy 'returns' the same day mr.goodie proposes..girl declines as lover boy's bak in her life..mr.G says if u dnt get along with him again then accept me and girl agrees coz she's sure tht loverboy wont 'go away' again...but opposite happens..so she accepts mr.G coz she had given him her word and sayin no would hurt him alot...did she do right thing?** does this mean she betrayed loverboy who betrayed her again and left her?**
Does lover-boy expect the girl to wait her ENTIRE life for him to get his act together and stop running away??????????? Nope, sorry. But a person (male or female) shouldn't have to put their life on hold for some immature individual.
The first time that lover-boy ran away.........she patiently waited for his return and turned down a good guy because of him. When lover-boy returned, he ran away THE SECOND TIME as well. So, this guy has committed two offenses. Does he expect that the she should go through this vicious cycle over and over and over gain? Conflicts take place between couples all the time and one should have the MATURITY to deal with these conflicts face-to-face as opposed to running away every time gray clouds approach the relationship. If this is the way this guy is going to behave, then it's best that the girl move on to someone who behaves like a man and not a boy.
So, did the girl betray lover-boy? No, she hasn't betrayed him. If lover-boy has a SINCERE interest in marrying the girl.....then he needs to make his intentions clear rather than displaying wishy-washy behavior and playing mind games. Did the girl do the right thing in "promising" this guy that she will marry him if lover-boy ditches her the second time? In my opinion the girl (any girl) should agree to marry a guy because she is mutually attracted to him AND finds his personality to be COMPATIBLE. She shouldn't base her decision MERELY on a "promise." If the girl in this scenario has a MUTUAL interest in this guy and is attrated to him and feels he's compatible.....then she should marry him. On the other hand, if the girl feels **absolutely nothing **for this guy....then she shouldn't marry him as that would be unfair....irrespective of "promises."