well there are two friends…not been friends long but shared a lot..the guy’s decent and all..religious and understanding..the goody-goody type in short…and the girls ok as well…she loves someone..this goodie guy confesses his love to her and she declines..dude knows she’s in love with this guy who at tht time was not in touch with this girl due to some misunderstandin and accordin to the girl he’d betrayed her…the lover boy ‘returns’ the same day mr.goodie proposes..girl declines as lover boy’s bak in her life..mr.G says if u dnt get along with him again then accept me and girl agrees coz she’s sure tht loverboy wont ‘go away’ again…but opposite happens..so she accepts mr.G coz she had given him her word and sayin no would hurt him alot…did she do right thing? does this mean she betrayed loverboy who betrayed her again and left her?
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Its hard to make a judgment on the matter without knowing how she truly feels. Skipping from one guy to the next is never a good idea because shes not giving time to herself.
For a person to be able to move on from a relationship, i believe they need to clear their head. Her inability to say 'no' to the guy may confuse her further and its not the best way to move on.
That could be one way to look at the situation another way is that Mr G. may be the helping hand for her to move on and settle down in life.
Its a situation whereby both persons feelings need to be assessed.
Personally i dont think she did anything wrong since Mr G. is happy with the decision and so is she, but instead of moving into a full blown relationship they should calm things down and take things very slowly so her mind clears up and she knows herself whether she is able to fulfil her obligations towards the commitment she made with Mr G.
Mr G should also keep a slight distance an be understanding to the fact that her feelings and emotions are fragile right now and any decisions as such should not be made hastily because it could transpire to be something unexpected.
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It is worse if you try to keep a relationship together because of words, if they are not meant.
There is no foundation for being together apart from pity and trying to be true to your words. Not only are you living in false hope but are also generating false hope for someone else. It is better to be true to your feelings. Don't ruin to lives. Yes it may hurt to tell someone something they do not want to hear, but it will hurt more in the long run when it is found out to be a lie.
It is worse if you try to keep a relationship together because of words, if they are not meant.
Yes it may hurt to tell someone something they do not want to hear, but it will hurt more in the long run when it is found out to be a lie.
well so she didnt love mr.G but just said yes coz she'd said if her relationship with loverboy(whom she loves mr.F) fails she'll give chance to someone who loves her(mr.G)...so mr.F broke her trust as he was pissed at her...so she had to stand by her word as doing otherwise would hurt mr.G who was a nice friend...then things ended with mr.G and she told him the truth tht she really didnt love him but has loved only mr.F..then mr.F returns yet again and she tells him the truth but he says she betrayed him by being with someone else...and tht despite their fight and his breaking all ties with her she shouldnt have gone with mr.G...well it's very hard to explain
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shes confused and needs to get rid of Mr F and Mr G!!
A relationship like that seems quite unhealthy coz shes jumping into decisions. Mr G should see this and i said before give her some space to decide what it is she wants. I dont think any man would be happy knowing his girl is thinking about another guy.
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stay away from F and G and all other guys. she can get with mr H when shes gotten over F
well there are two friends...not been friends long but shared a lot..the guy's decent and all..religious and understanding..the goody-goody type in short...and the girls ok as well...she loves someone..this goodie guy confesses his love to her and she declines..dude knows she's in love with this guy who at tht time was not in touch with this girl due to some misunderstandin and accordin to the girl he'd betrayed her...the lover boy 'returns' the same day mr.goodie proposes..girl declines as lover boy's bak in her life..mr.G says if u dnt get along with him again then accept me and girl agrees coz she's sure tht loverboy wont 'go away' again...but opposite happens..so she accepts mr.G coz she had given him her word and sayin no would hurt him alot...did she do right thing?** does this mean she betrayed loverboy who betrayed her again and left her?**
Does lover-boy expect the girl to wait her ENTIRE life for him to get his act together and stop running away??????????? Nope, sorry. But a person (male or female) shouldn't have to put their life on hold for some immature individual.
The first time that lover-boy ran away.........she patiently waited for his return and turned down a good guy because of him. When lover-boy returned, he ran away THE SECOND TIME as well. So, this guy has committed two offenses. Does he expect that the she should go through this vicious cycle over and over and over gain? Conflicts take place between couples all the time and one should have the MATURITY to deal with these conflicts face-to-face as opposed to running away every time gray clouds approach the relationship. If this is the way this guy is going to behave, then it's best that the girl move on to someone who behaves like a man and not a boy.
So, did the girl betray lover-boy? No, she hasn't betrayed him. If lover-boy has a SINCERE interest in marrying the girl.....then he needs to make his intentions clear rather than displaying wishy-washy behavior and playing mind games. Did the girl do the right thing in "promising" this guy that she will marry him if lover-boy ditches her the second time? In my opinion the girl (any girl) should agree to marry a guy because she is mutually attracted to him AND finds his personality to be COMPATIBLE. She shouldn't base her decision MERELY on a "promise." If the girl in this scenario has a MUTUAL interest in this guy and is attrated to him and feels he's compatible.....then she should marry him. On the other hand, if the girl feels **absolutely nothing **for this guy....then she shouldn't marry him as that would be unfair....irrespective of "promises."
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LOL, firenze is stalking RV's posts full of wisdom.I agree with Mr. F. You don't have back-up plans when it comes to relationships, oh if this one fails I still have that one to play with. Girl needs to be left alone by both men to understand and wake up.
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^ Firenze (Mr. F, etc), for a 24-year-old guy, you behaving in a rather juvenile way. Is your life THAT sad that "PARAGRAPHS" are a NOVELTY to you??? Yes, I write in paragraphs to organize my thoughts. So, do many people on GS. Why don't you search around and you'll find that several people write in paragraphs. It's not rocket-science and there's a purpose to it. Get over it. If you don't want to read someone's post, don't read them. But CONSTANTLY making fun of my post length is disrespectful. There's a limit to joking even, and it's getting old.
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thanx all for your views here..i was very confused and worried with this situation my friend is in..and redvelvet i appreciated your take in this..
SU the girl didnt have back-up plans but rather felt some guilt in saying no as it would have hurt her good friend and wehn she'd agreed to his saying about being with him was due to the fact that she trusted mr.F that he wont go away again..
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