A thread on second marriages with honorable intentions got me thinking,
If your actions hurt a person’s emotions in an almost irrevocable way but your actions have been undeniably within the acceptable limits that Islam places on us, then are you accountable for that hurt? Do you get punished for it in your after life? Or is that hurt not really your responsibility because the hurt is a result of the other person’s over-sensitivity or personal beliefs independent of Islam or ‘vices’ or humanness? Let’s keep in mind that this action on your part was a choice and option and definitely not compulsion or need.
You may have to discuss second marriages to support your views, but please avoid a debate on polygamy etc.
If your actions hurt a person's emotions in an almost irrevocable way but your actions have been undeniably within the acceptable limits that Islam places on us, then are you accountable for that hurt?
No you are not accountable. There is a hadees that allows us to deny our parents order if its against shariah. You think that when you disobey your parents in such situation, its not going to hurt their feelings. It will. But Islam not only allows us but in fact orders us to disobey them in such matters.
No you are not accountable. There is a hadees that allows us to deny our parents order if its against shariah. You think that when you disobey your parents in such situation, its not going to hurt their feelings. It will. But Islam not only allows us but in fact orders us to disobey them in such matters.
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agree 100% but parents are the exceptions. there is direct orders in Qur'aan not to disobey parents in any other matter, not to speak to them in a loud or derogrative manner. parents are the ONLY relationships mentioned in Qur'aan to be obeyed. so, its incumbant upon us to love, respect and obey our parents except in the matters of deen. wallaho 'aalam bissawaab.**
PJ, if there is another option then its obligatory to follow the option that is neither against shariah nor its hurting someones feelings. Hazrat Umar decided not to pray inside the main church of a country that Muslims just conquered. One of the reasons is that he was protective towards the feelings of Christians. He had an option of praying anywhere but he decided to pray outside the church.
TLK, the situation that this thread is based on always has an option :(
Maybe not always but yes most of the times we have other options. See the thing is that we always think from first wife's point of view and no one thinks from the second (potential) wife's POV. There could be genuine situation where the second woman has no choice but to marry someone to survive and she is not getting rishtas of single guys because she has a kid so only option is to marry an already married guy.
Or is that hurt not really your responsibility because the hurt is a result of the other person's over-sensitivity or personal beliefs independent of Islam or 'vices' or humanness? Let's keep in mind that this action on your part was a choice and option and definitely not compulsion or need.
That.....
and you can never keep everyone else happy......even within the allowed things in islam, there are always choices and options......if you chose to do something legal (and hurtful) you can't be blamed.......but on the other side if you do something legal (which is not hurtful) you are doing an extra good deed...so its an 'extra'......not something essential.......