Sas hoon tow aisee

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i havent gt any inlaws (not married) but i do no that its not da same as they show in indian dramas

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well if she didn’t even give you a chance then it’s good that things didn’t go forward because if she had ended up becoming your MIL, she obviously wouldn’t have been very nice to you. You must be going through a lot of emotional pain right now, even if i don’t know the whole story:hugz::(.

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Mallika,

thanks for the hug.
may this never happen to honest women. amen.

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MIL's should treat their DIL's as their own daughters and DIL's their MIL's as their own mothers and their will not be any problems.

Time for seniors to go: Shahid Afridi
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what will happen if she would find another daughter in law, she had in her mind, who would turn out worse than can be ever anticipated.

generational convergence has to take place to prevent brutal prejudging attitude towards grown up children of other people.

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People will always judge thats human nature I guess.

If she already has a daughter in law why would she try to find another daughter-in-law? Marriage should be for life. If each of them respect their in-laws as their own mothers and daughters then I cannot see a problem.

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^ Another daughter in law for another son :p

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Thanks Mrs Saieen:D

Well my parents have taken the view that their own daughters (although they love them) don't belong to them and their real daughters are their daughters in laws.

I don't see how having a new daughter-in-law will make a difference to the existing daughter-in-law...or at least it shouldn't, each one of them deserve to be treated equally and to have your unconditional love as you would love your own daughters although they may have different personalities and you may bond with one slightly better than the other.

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I have a great relationship with my MIL…she is really nice and she treats me like her own daughter…but i am always concerned that if we move out how she will react…i mean i dont want her to hate me cuz whenver after getting married the couple decided to move out its like a huge shock for the MIL and she always blames the “bahu” k she was the one who took her son away form her…i mean i really dont want to hurt her cuz i really respect her as my mother and i know how much she hates the idea of us moving out but here in U.S its really hard to live in a joint family its wayyyy easier in pakistan i think. I am soooo confuseddddd and scared i guess we have to wait for tht day to come and see how things will go :bummer:

~Sarees~
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mrs. shikra,

why dont u move out with her first, and leave mr. shikra home alone for a day.
humor aside,
i think, if mashaalah u have a nice relationship, elders understand that younger generation needs to have their own time alone too and , living out for better work or better living space - even, away for privacy as a couple, is not a sin.
joint family system has its pluses, too.
as long as each and every one

yes, but do visit your parents and mr. shikra's often and make them all 4 know, that u two are their pride, help and shield.

of course, i am only estimating here, as honestly and optimistically, simply as an on looker.
kush raho, sari duien tum dono keye lieye.
:)
dushwari

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i hate my sas

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my sas loves here son son much she cant let him go out on here own

Agar Tum Mil Jao !!
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^my dear sakhis,
in your cases, with respect to their mother in laws,
your husbands need to come to their senses!
Mom and wife are unequal forces on the men.
these forces can cooperate to have their respective respectable relationships with the man as a son and as a husband.
women as mil and dil, must not destroy each other's respect and make the poisonous triangle of son, dil and mil.
if anything they ought to gang up on the man, if he is not fulfilling his duties as a son and as a husband. each party has to be fair and reasonable in its role!
& it wont happen on its own or if u and ur mother in lawas will eat away at each others' peace, if they themselves do not take a fair action.
there should be a whole class given to young men at husbands to-be, to young women as to-be dils and moms as mils to-be - on how to balance their relationships.

we cannot have a brokerage of the man, now can we.
none the less , no man is to be empathied as a 'poor lil baby'
if women can leave tehir parents' houses and take on a whole family, the men, at least ought to do all they can to take a stand for the wife.
other wise, it is better to stay unmarried or to hand back the sons to their moms!

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awwwww sho shweet:hugz:

^KAASH^