Re: same problem i feared, happening now…
Yes, that was exactly whom I was referring to. I could just picture the THICK Punjabi accent in their Urdus…“Ab Faatma ko bhi bhejay naa. Bas bhejna hoga. Zaroor aana hoga…akhir us ki phuppo ki shaadi hai. Ab shaadi roz roz to nahin hoti. Oh kuch nahin hoga beti ko…chota sa to safar hai. Us ke nana sambaal lain ge. Woh hamaray saath reh le gi. Kya humain us ka khayal nahin rakhna aata? Yeh bhi koi baat hui. Zaroor bhejna hoga…Bla bla bla bla bla bla bla.”
Just give a thorough explanation to them. If they still don’t get it…give a vague placating response…and ignore/change the subject…send some gifts to soften their bruised egos. Quit letting it get under your skin when you know you can’t expect sense from them.
*And I may get tamaatar and anday thrown my way…but am I the only one that finds their request a little fishy along with being stupid?