[this is my first post..still trying to get the hang o f the smilies ]
ok I have a situation..
I was wondering----I’m leaving school and maybe the country in 3 months or so—there is one friend who I truly LOVE and ADMIRE but it’s just not in my nature to express my feelings , especially to the ones I care about the most [and no it’s not a girl-guy romantic thing..:-/]. I simply adore that person but sometimes I say things that are SO mean ..and I dont know why, maybe because I am insecure ???And that person has the biggest heart and most of the times forgives (without even saying it..just ignores it..i guess..) and forgets ..maybe because that person doesnt care enough (sigh)…
I dont want it to be like this… has done SO MUCH for me without asking for anything in return --as if i had anyithing to offer ! . I feel like I have finally found a SOUL MATE ( something beyond best friend) only to have WASTED the opportunity…coz I do mess things up— but it’s SO much fun when i’m around that person, i truly feel HAPPPY which for me is tough :-/, but I kind of know that the feeling is not mutual. Maybe that’s why I act SO strange…sigh..and I’m a little possessive too …( btw, i’m possesive abt my hairclip aswell:-/)..I cant stand the fact EVERYBODY adores the person too…even my roommate!!(TRAITOR!!!)
hmmmmmmmmm i think i can understand what ur going through!
actually im going through the same situation myself…i adore someone too…and im always happy when he/she is round…he/she is always forgiving…and doesnt mind what i say…but i always mess things up for them…im always in a mood with them for no reason…he/she is always tries to make me feel better and i like that…:)…
i dont like it when other people are round him/her……it feels like i should be the only one that should own them……i want him/her all to myself…i dunno whats happening to me…:(…i dont think he/she notices me either…
anyways, i guess the two of us then r just very similar
coz ur writing style, the phrases u use, the way u started the post, the smilies u use, the shortforms for words u use r all like mine
not to mention finishing school n possibly leaving the country within 3 months…r u an international student from pakistan? i’m too…where u at?
i’ve pm’ed u tooo…
so well, nice to meet you :k:
dont be upset but i still feel like this is fishy sorry i might change my mind after i see more posts from you
anyways, sis, i’ve never been in this position so don’t know what to tell u, but just concentrate on ur studies, focus on graduating in time and finishing up ur classes, in chakkaron ke baaray mein sochne k lyay poori zindagi pari hay aagay dont talk to this person too much u r just gona get distracted, focus on ur classes :k:
Maybe you should try to BE yourself , especially when you are around her and yes hang out with her more often . That way she will get to see the real you and who knows maybe she feels the same way too?? Probably u never gave her a chance to show it ??
Make an effort to show how much you care --and that doesnt mean you have to TELL her , just try to do the little extra things without worrying about being taken for granted. Cuz if she is indeed special, she would never do that, i.e. take you for granted. Or, you can try talking to her frankly --even if that means taking a great risk, it sounds like she is worth it. And if you don’t, you will always wonder , what if??
Alhamdulillah! At last!! I am SO glad you posted this Aashi You just made my day! Coz till now I was thinking that there must be something wrong with me !!! eek
So have you talked to anyone about it? Here nobody seems to have any advice to offer some of them think it is a guy!!! Which is NOT! sighz.And I dont want to talk to anyone in person, I am a little shy about these things.
so what do we DO!!! She will leave too so I may not see her ever again!!
You mentioned that you are not good at expressing your felings and then also you are sad about the fact that you think the way u feel about that person they dont feel the same about you. Well maybe the same applies to him/her. Maybe he/she is not good at expressing his/her feelings either.
I would say try to change yourself. Not an easy thing to do but you should start to elarn how to compromise and that you cannnot have everyhting you want.
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[and no it's not a girl-guy romantic thing..:-/]
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II feel like I have finally found a SOUL MATE ( something beyond best friend)
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Here is what my friend thinks:
Just cuz he/she doesn't react when you r mean to him/her doesn't necessarily means he/she doesn't care because obviously if u guys are as close as u say you are he/she might know u don't mean it and if u are upset he/she might just want you to let out your frustrations because he/she feels this is the best way to deal with the problem and also the fact that he/she doesn't say he/she expects anything from you is probably cuz you guys are best friends...the fact that you guys are that close obviously means that you are doing things for the other person that he/she appreciates and if he/she didn't care u guys obviously wouldn't be that close.
This is what I think:
This might be sad but if that person isn't attracted to u then ....just forget it cuz it's not worth it (I know it's hard but u will get over it)....cuz if that person liked you would know believe me....so don't try to make it hard on him/her cuz that person might know that u like him/her..but at the same time he/she don't wanna know cuz they can't say 'no'...cuz they don't want to hurt you cuz u might be a good friend and in that case they might make a wrong decision which will cause problems later on....But if you think this is not the case then go ahead and let that person know how you feel.
But be careful either way...only you know what's going on.
gather your strength and tell him how you feel :~)
The best way to explain yourself to the other person is by looking straight in their eyes and telling them how you feel :~). Sometimes to others it may seem like a joke sadly people dont respect that beautiful feeling you are having at this moment.
Tell him now or you will regret for rest of your life. In btw how old ar eyou?
Simaan, it’s perfectly normal for you to feel that way…so possessive I mean. Just try not to overdo it, that could cause a problem. Anyway, as I was saying, I’m sure that he/she will feel very appreciated and will be really touched if you told them how you feel, straightforward. If you don’t want to do that, you could do some nice things for her like Sameer said, that don’t seem like much but make a big difference when added up. Seriously, I envy you for having such a great friend. Allah aapki dosti ko salaamat rukhay…Ameen.
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. I feel like I have finally found a SOUL MATE ( something beyond best friend) only to have WASTED the opportunity…coz I do mess things up— but it’s SO much fun when i’m around that person, i truly feel HAPPPY which for me is tough :-/, but I kind of know that the feeling is not mutual. Maybe that’s why I act SO strange…sigh..and I’m a little possessive too …( btw, i’m possesive abt my hairclip aswell:-/)..I cant stand the fact EVERYBODY adores the person too…even my roommate!!(TRAITOR!!!)
…it feels like i should be the only one that should own them…
…i want him/her all to myself…i dunno whats happening to me…:(…i dont think he/she notices me either…
sorry i might change my mind after i see more posts from you
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