As a spin-off to Mehnaz’s thread about lifting spirits, I wonder if it is just me or whether anyone else also feels a bit of prolonged sadness at losing someone dear to you, as in an ended relationship in this case, especially when the relationship is ended by the other person on an open note where no closure or answers are provided. I have recently gone through such an experience and basically to deal with it, I go out to forget what happened, pray to Allah mian for making this feeling of sadness go away and to not hurt the other person further, and cry it out when I am alone. Call me weak or lame or insecure for this, as this person did, but these were my feelings and I don’t see anything wrong with feeling that way. At least I have a heart that feels emotion.
When a relationship is terminated without closure, you are left with alot of scenarios and possibilities in your mind about the whats, whys, hows, whens. I really trusted this individual, thought he was different than most, and shared alot with him regarding myself and my family for about a year and he even came to meet me twice, driving a distance, but at the end, despite my open honesy, he began keeping many secrets from me and closing himself off while still not letting me go. I wonder why he didn’t just say goodbye and end it right there and then rather than string me along? In addition, towards the end, he needlessly insulted me and made a threat which I would never have expected him to make in a million years. I was shocked, sad for being wrong all along about someone who I had put so much faith into and really liked for all his goods and bads, and ultimately, for my own dignity’s sake, I backed out despite the hurt I felt. I miss him but Allah mian heels all wounds, mine and his as well I hope.
Sadness can be a nasty thing. I think the only cure is perhaps to just deal with it and move on. Time is the great healer they say.
