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I think there elegant only if worn alone
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my family is hyderabadi (from very "nawabi" lineage), and my sister and I both inherited our mother's heirloom jewelry from her wedding when we got married... saat lara haar, jaravi lacha, karan phool & jhoomar...it's all pearl, emeralds & pholki...so regal & beautiful!! at the time i got married (13 yrs ago, mA!), of course, I felt it was all OTT & "dated", but now that my mom is no longer alive (passed away 3 yrs ago) I realize how precious these are!! i keep everything in the safe deposit box at the bank, of course! my sister and i have decided that since her daughter (19 yrs old) is the only girl grandchild (i have 3 boys!), she will got all these heirloom sets when she marries, NO WAY we are passing them to bahus..who KNOWS where they will end up...lol!
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Ah, so lucky you have that^^
Where did you get married? In Karachi?
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Ah, so lucky you have that^^ Where did you get married? In Karachi?
Nahin! I'm from US, born and raised here...got married in Texas, where my husband is also from. I'm very lucky to have my entire family here though (everyone had pretty much left Hyderabad, India & Karachi by the mid '80's) , we are mashallah about 50+ in number, and ALL live within a 15 mile radius of eachother...i have 28 first cousins alone (not counting those of us who have married and have spouses now), lol!! The joke is instead of "My Big Fat Greek Wedding", our shindigs are "My Big Fat Hyderabadi Wedding"...lol!
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my family is hyderabadi (from very "nawabi" lineage), and my sister and I both inherited our mother's heirloom jewelry from her wedding when we got married... saat lara haar, jaravi lacha, karan phool & jhoomar...it's all pearl, emeralds & pholki...so regal & beautiful!! at the time i got married (13 yrs ago, mA!), of course, I felt it was all OTT & "dated", but now that my mom is no longer alive (passed away 3 yrs ago) I realize how precious these are!! i keep everything in the safe deposit box at the bank, of course! my sister and i have decided that since her daughter (19 yrs old) is the only girl grandchild (i have 3 boys!), she will got all these heirloom sets when she marries, NO WAY we are passing them to bahus..who KNOWS where they will end up...lol!
Ultimately, it's up to you and your sister who you want to give these 'heirloom' pieces to...but IMHO it's sad that you don't even know who your bahus are going to be and have already decided not to give them these pieces of jewelry. You yourself are someone's bahu....I don't think you would appreciate it if your mother-in-law thought the same way.....
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Ultimately, it's up to you and your sister who you want to give these 'heirloom' pieces to...but IMHO it's sad that you don't even know who your bahus are going to be and have already decided not to give them these pieces of jewelry. You yourself are someone's bahu....I don't think you would appreciate it if your mother-in-law thought the same way.....
Yes, I myself am a bahu, and actually, my mother in law completely agreed with my sister and I that these heirlooms should stay with my mom's nawasi as she was the first born grandchild in our family, is the ONLY girl, and was the light of my mother's life. My sister and I are VERY luck that our husband's are VERY generous and we both, mashallah have amassed quite alot of jewelry, both eastern & western, throughout our marriages. We've both decided that whatever we recieved from our husbands & inlaws will go straight to our future bahus, (i have 3 sons, she has 1), but these precious sets that were our mother's will only pass to my niece.
I don't see anything negative or wrong, or sad with that. In fact, I myself was gifted an exquisite, antique karra, by my taya & taayi ma dating back to the Pre-Partion, when my taaya was given this as gift from someone in the Nizam of Hyderabad's court. My taaya has 5 bahus, but no daughters of his own, and he and my taayi ma chose to give this to me, as I have always been a close pet of theirs. Do you see that as sad as well???
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You're original post was "NO WAY we are passing them to bahus..who KNOWS where they will end up...lol!" and that's why I thought that was and still is sad because there's an element of mistrust in that comment....again, this is my opinion. Like I said, that is your jewelry and you have every right to give it to whomever you want.
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I agree with Kattichic, it's not a matter of mistrust of bahus. These antique jewelry pieces should stay with the girl's side. A future bahu may have no idea what these meant for the grandmother, and may not like the piece and exchange it for something else to her liking- the sentimental value will be lost. In a hypothetical situation, jewelry that once belonged to my grandmother, mother, aunt etc, will mean a lot more to me than jewelry that belonged to my inlaws, simply because I don't know them that well. Some of the pieces i've seen my mom put on and take off since I was a little girl, stuff my mom dressed me up in, stuff that was lovingly given to her from her mother. it's hard for someone else to have those same emotions towards it.
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any reliable websites to purchase these type of saat lara necklaces?
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I just read the above comments.
mA, you are extremely blessed to have jewellery belonging to your late Mother . I (my opinion), think it is a beautiful gesture to gift the pieces to your only niece.
I was gifted earrings which belonged to my Nani, given to my Mother, who gifted to me , as i am the oldest grandchild and oldest Nawasi.