Re: Running Credit Check before marriage… seriously??
HELL YEAH!
No credit< as in Pepsi cola’s case, is different. at least then the guy (whos like him) can explain why he has absolutely no credit.
BUT yes one should be completely aware.
So should the women be subject to Credit checks too? 
Re: Running Credit Check before marriage… seriously??
^ NO!!! Leave women out of this! Thanks. :halo:
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LOL
definitely, because in some cases even to rent an apartment they run credit checks on everyone who will be living there and everyone has to pass their standards, many places make exceptions in case of married couples so as long as one meets the credit worthiness its good.
Re: Running Credit Check before marriage… seriously??
Lipid Panel!!! 
In all honesty, wait till you have kids. You’ll be running the guy through scanners and having rectal exams done on the guy.
Nothing wrong with a pre-nup. What’s so unbelievable about that? I find it so funny that guys find it so abhorrent, but pre-nups are esp necessary since most countries do not guarantee the Islamic rights of property/finances etc to a woman. In my state in the US, you get divorced and everything (and I mean everything) gets split in half - so whoever is the one with the lower invome or no income escapes with everything.
That doesn’t work out so well when you’ve got a girl from a well-off family and/or well paying job - she gets jipped. I don’t think a pre-nup is unreasonable. in fact, men who are anti-prenups are probably sleeze buckets anyway - they’d be the first ones to run off with a woman’s loot the minute they got a chance. And if you think that’s exaggeration, its already happened here to a number of families.
Re: Running Credit Check before marriage... seriously??
PCG actually if memory serves me right in previous discussions on GS it was mostly the ladies who find prenups distasteful.
as far as walkign away with 50% of everything benefitting men, I think atleast for desi families that would be a minority situation anyways. for every couple where the woman makes more than her hbby you will find 40 doctors or lawyers whose wives earn a whopping grand total of $0.00/year.
anyways back to the topic, as far as credit checks go., I dont think they can make or break a relationship but one should know what they are getting into especially in arranged marriages.
Re: Running Credit Check before marriage... seriously??
just a thought though... even if u dont have a pre-nup and in a divorce you end up with a 50/50 split.. does it matter if the lower-income person gets the 50%? considering the people were both married.. they both invested their lives into the relationship.. isnt it fair?
i dont think the lower income person is getting the upper hand just cus they did get 50%.. considering how much they have lost..
maybe i am not understanding this correctly though
as for credit-checks... how do u do one of those? i bet my hubby would liked to have done one of those on me... not that i had a bad credit history.. but he prob would have liked to know how much of my income i wasted on useless things
Re: Running Credit Check before marriage... seriously??
My friend got married to a dude with crazy student loans and now she is sick of paying them off and like someone said they can't afford everyday things. He didn't bring them up before marriage and i think thats unfair.
I dont know about credit checks, but this is something you should discuss with your spouse.
in fact, men who are anti-prenups are probably sleeze buckets anyway - .
wow, I thought they were ALL sleaze buckets. I guess they've improved! yay!
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hahaha
Re: Running Credit Check before marriage... seriously??
queer bear where you been
Re: Running Credit Check before marriage... seriously??
i was away locked up in a padded cell.
which reminds me, how is my old pal majestic these days? :D
Re: Running Credit Check before marriage... seriously??
locked up in a paded cell :D
you and pcg still going at it, i c.
Re: Running Credit Check before marriage... seriously??
Credit Check should be must + background check. Saves you from a lot of troubles !..
Well if this beautiful commitment has to turn into a business deal, what about guys getting caught in a situation where the bride doesn’t know a squat about how to take care of the house, cook, clean etc. the only thing she knows is to sit on her *** and look pretty ?
Shouldn’t a guy’s dad ask if she can cook daal chawal or Nihari, or Aaloo Gosht etc. Shouldn’t he put a condition that she must first learn all that or else find a sissy man elsewhere…
Re: Running Credit Check before marriage... seriously??
question is.. what are everyday things that cant be afforded due to these loans?
sometimes, things pop up and u have to adjust ur lifestyle accordingly.. lets say u go form no loan to a huge house mortgage, ur spending changes a lot..
yes i agree all these things should be discussed prior to getting married, but sometimes i think we really need to weight out what are everyday things that cant be afforded.. sometimes people have really high expectations from a guy..
a lot of these students do have huge loans.. and it can take many many years to pay them off.. if u expect him to pay them off before getting married, he'd prob be 35+.. thats the reality of these loans.. they are HUGE.. so best discuss these issues before getting married and then decide on how ur gonna work TOGETHER as a TEAM and pay them off..
after we got married, we had a bit of a loan to pay off the wedding debt.. we only paid a very tiny proportion of it in comparison to the parents.. although it was tight.. we lived through it..
give students a break... if u have a look at the loan they get (or their parents get) u'd prob have a mini attack cus it can be that huge.. be a team and try to work through it
Well if this beautiful commitment has to turn into a business deal, what about guys getting caught in a situation where the bride doesn't know a squat about how to take care of the house, cook, clean etc. the only thing she knows is to sit on her *** and look pretty ?
Shouldn't a guy's dad ask if she can cook daal chawal or Nihari, or Aaloo Gosht etc. Shouldn't he put a condition that she must first learn all that or else find a sissy man elsewhere...
Comparing apples and oranges.
Cooking and stuff can be learned afterwards (depending on how willing she is).
But hey in a situation where both parnters are being judged/chosen on "traditionaL" criteria (girl- good looking, good housekeeper, guy is provider), then its all fair.
But hey in a situation where both parnters are being judged/chosen on "traditionaL" criteria (girl- good looking, good housekeeper, guy is provider), then its all fair.
Thank you for supporting my point. That's exactly what I meant to say, 'its all fair' why all the fuss on guy's bad credit etc.
Comparing apples and oranges. Cooking and stuff can be learned afterwards (depending on how willing she is).
and loans can't be paid off after you get married ? what's your point ?
just a thought though... even if u dont have a pre-nup and in a divorce you end up with a 50/50 split.. does it matter if the lower-income person gets the 50%? considering the people were both married.. they both invested their lives into the relationship.. isnt it fair?
i dont think the lower income person is getting the upper hand just cus they did get 50%.. considering how much they have lost..
why do you think its unfair if 2 ppl decide that if they part then they will take whatever they bring into the joint life, and if the dude is making 10k and the woman is making 50K then it makes sense that the assets are split at that ratio or whatever the decided. Both invested their lives and time into the reltionship, that has zero to do with how much of their contributed assets they can take with them.
wow, I thought they were ALL sleaze buckets. I guess they've improved! yay!
no no no....all are pigs, some pgs are also sleaze buckets, and some are not. comprende??
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In the end I dont think someone havings loans, or bad credit has to be a deal breaker, but one should know what he or she is getting into. thats it