Saallamm to all! Well first of all this is a copy and paste..yeah sue me for it!
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I thought why not give the young ones a little lesson on BF & GF and having them according to islam! Anyways hope you guys read all! CLICK ON THE LINK! For those who have cheap mouse, and cant click to many times; i ll paste it just now! 
I am deeply in love with a Muslim man and want to
marry him. I know that Allah forbids
girlfriend-boyfriend relationships, and feel very
sorry in my heart for our relationship. I feel that
because we have been in this relationship which is
abhorred by Allah, he will never marry me because
he has lost respect for me. What does the Quaran
say about this?
Praise be to Allaah.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“… Wed them with the permission of their own folk and give
them their mahr (dowry) according to what is reasonable;
they should be chaste, not adulterous, nor taking
boyfriends…” [al-Nisaa’ 4:25]
In his commentary on this aayah, Ibn Katheer (may Allaah
have mercy on him) said:
“Muhsanaat [translated as “chaste”] means that they should
be pure, not indulging in zinaa (unlawful sexual conduct),
hence they are described as not being musaafihaat, which
means promiscuous women who do not refuse anyone who
wants to commit immoral acts with them. Regarding the
phrase wa laa muttakhidhaati akhdaan (‘nor taking
boyfriends’), Ibn ‘Abbaas said: ‘al-musaafihaat means those
who are known to commit zinaa, meaning those who will not
refuse anyone who wants to commit immoral acts with them.’
Ibn ‘Abbaas also said: ‘muttakhidhaati akhdaan means lovers.’
A similar interpretation was narrated from Abu Hurayrah,
Mujaahid, al-Sha’bi, al-Dahhaak, ‘Ataa’ al-Khurasaani, Yahyaa
ibn Abi Katheer, Muqaatil ibn Hayyaan and al-Saddi. They
said: (it means) lovers. Al-Hasan al-Basri said: ‘It means a
(male) friend.’ Al-Dahhaak also said: ‘wa laa muttakhidhaati
akhdaan also means a woman who has just one boyfriend or
lover with whom she is happy. Allaah has also forbidden this,
meaning marrying her so long as she is in that situation…’”
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Made lawful to you this day are al-tayyibaat [all kinds of
halaal (lawful) foods…]. The food of the People of the
Scripture (Jews and Christians) is lawful to you and yours is
lawful to them. (Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women
from the believers and chaste women from those who were
given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) before your time,
when you have given their due mahr (bridal money given by
the husband to the wife at the time of marriage), desiring
chastity (i.e., taking them in legal wedlock), not committing
illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends. And
whosoever disbelieves in the Oneness of Allaah and in all the
other Articles of Faith, the fruitless is his work, and in the
Hereafter he will be among the losers.” [al-Maa’idah 5:5]
Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
“Muhsineen ghayr musaafiheen wa laa muttakhidhi akhdaan
(‘desiring chastity (i.e., taking them in legal wedlock), not
committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as
girlfriends’). Just as Allaah imposed the condition of chastity
on women, meaning that they refrain from zinaa, so it is also
imposed on men. The man must also be pure and chaste. So
they should be ghayr musaafiheen, meaning they should not be
adulterers who do not refrain from sin and do not refuse any
who come to them (for immoral purposes). Nor should they be
muttakhidhi akhdaan, meaning those who have girlfriends or
female lovers with whom they have an exclusive relationship,
as quoted above from Soorat al-Nisaa’. (The one with many
lovers or the one with just one lover) are both the same. For
this reason Imaam Ahmad ibn Hanbal (may Allaah have mercy
on him) said that it is not right to marry a promiscuous woman
unless she has repented, or to arrange a marriage of such a
woman to a chaste man, so long as she is still conducting
herself in this manner. Similarly, he (Ahmad) says that it is
not right for a promiscuous man to marry a chaste woman
unless he repents and gives up his immoral conduct, because
of this aayah… We will discuss this matter in further detail
after quoting the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):
“Let no man guilty of fornication or adultery marry any but a
woman similarly guilty, or an unbeliever: nor let any but such a
man or an unbeliever marry such a woman: to the Believers
such a thing is forbidden.” [al-Noor 24:3]
Among the stories that show that it is forbidden to have
girlfriends or to marry them is the story of Marthad ibn Abi
Marthad, who used to smuggle Muslim prisoners-of-war from
Makkah to Madeenah. There was a prostitute in Makkah,
called ‘Anaaq, who had been a friend of Marthad’s. Marthad
had promised to take one of the prisoners from Makkah to
Madeenah. He said: “I came to the shade of one of the
gardens of Makkah on a moonlit night, then ‘Anaaq came and
saw my shadow by the garden. When she reached me, she
recognized me and said: ‘Marthad?’ I said, ‘Marthad.’ She
said: ‘Welcome! Stay with us tonight.’ I said, ‘O ‘Anaaq, Allaah
has forbidden zinaa (unlawful sexual relations)’ … I came to
the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) and asked him, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, should I
marry ‘Anaaq?’ The Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) remained silent and did not
answer me at all, until the aayah ‘Let no man guilty of adultery
or fornication marry any but a woman similarly guilty, or an
Unbeliever; nor let any but such a man or an Unbeliever marry
such a woman; to the Believers such a thing is forbidden’
[al-Noor 24:3 – Yusuf ‘Ali’s translation] was revealed. Then
the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) said: ‘O Marthad, Let no man guilty of adultery
or fornication marry any but a woman similarly guilty, or an
Unbeliever; nor let any but such a man or an Unbeliever marry
such a woman, so do not marry her.’”
(Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 3101; he said: it is a hasan ghareeb hadeeth).
‘Abd-Allaah ibn Maghfal reported that there was a woman
who had been a prostitute during the days of ignorance
(before Islam). A man passed by her, or she passed by him,
and he touched her. She said: “Stop it! (Mah! A word connoting
a rebuke or denunciation). Allaah has done away with shirk and
had brought Islam.” So he left her alone and went away, still
looking at her, until he walked into a wall, hitting his face. He
came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) and told him what had happened. The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “You are a
man for whom Allaah wishes good. When Allaah, may He be
blessed and exalted, wishes good for His slave, He hastens
the punishment for his sin, so that it is dealt with before the
Day of Resurrection.” (Reported by al-Haakim, 1/349, who said this
hadeeth is saheeh according to the conditions of Muslim, and al-Dhahabi
agreed with him. See Saheeh al-Jaami’, 308).
These aayaat and ahaadeeth clearly indicate that it is haraam
(forbidden) for men to have any kind of friendship or
relationship with non-mahram women (women to whom they
are not closely-related and to whom they could get married).
The evil consequences and misery caused by such
relationships are obvious to anyone who observes real life. A
similar question has been asked under #2085. We ask Allaah
to keep us far away from that which is forbidden, to protect
us from all that may earn His wrath and to keep us safe from
a painful punishment. May Allaah bless our Prophet
Muhammad.
Jaawan
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