Hi everyone, I just had some questions about the period between rukhsati and valima. So I was just wondering what does the bride do the first morning she is at her husband’s home? Like do you have to wake your husband up for Fajr? Do you have to cook anything?
Aapki amma huzoor ki kia raye hai is mauzoo pe?
Unn se rujoo karein.
Re: Rukhsati until Valima
Usually couples are at hotels but if you spend the night at his home than I would reccomend that you do wake up for fajr and depending on your inlaws, I don't think you have to make breakfast. Doesn't your family send it?
Re: Rukhsati until Valima
what do you mean by between ruKhsati and walima? what's the significance of walima? after nikaah, you are a couple and that's it!
if hubby prays regularly, he will get up on his own. you wake him up ONLY if he asks you to.
you get ready and let your hubby go out of the room first...after a few minutes you come out too. get modestly ready...no heavy clothes or jewelry.
that's what i would wish my wife will do on the first day after nikaah.
Re: Rukhsati until Valima
If you are spending the night at your in laws then try to wake up early I guess. You won't be required to cook. People will be popping in and out to meet you etc maybe so you might be expected to dress up. Don't stress so much about what to do. Things will flow naturally.
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Its farz to wake up in fajar and this question does not arises. I recommend every girl to always wake up early as it looks really odd for a new couple to wake up in the noon which most of the couples do.. looks really odd especially when every bodys' eyes are on you.... No you dont have to cook at all... just take rest and make preparations for walima because its not easy to be bride again.. its hectic :)
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^I always thought people kinda expect the couple to get up late and think it's cute..
Would be a bit harsh of inlaws to expect a new bride to cook lol.. don't think it really happens anyway..
Re: Rukhsati until Valima
Ask your mom...she should be telling you what to do if you will be at your husband's home instead if a hotel. Fajr is farz...u should pray it. Ask your husband what time his parents will be up...and you can set your alarm around that time. If your husband is also up...fix the bed neatly...as well as your room. I know it may sound silly...but some in-laws do take note of things like whether the bed/room was left unmade, etc.
Re: Rukhsati until Valima
^I always thought people kinda expect the couple to get up late and think it's cute..
Would be a bit harsh of inlaws to expect a new bride to cook lol.. don't think it really happens anyway..
Agree - as a new couple everyone expects you to wake up late! And I think it's cute too!