Ruining Someone's Life :( :( :(

BombShellBabe · May 9, 2011, 3:31pm

Re: Ruining Someone’s Life

good advice

No contact with the dude WHATSOEVER would help her A LOT. She should make that her absolute law. Isn’t causing pain to your own self not allowed in Islam? Tell her that (assuming she’s muslim). Contacting him only intensifies her own pain. She’s got to love herself.

She needs to take care of the real situations that can cause her a great deal of pain. For the time being, her not being able to trust others is ok. But to completely learn and grow from this experience, she has to start trusting people eventually.

Dealing with your insecurities requires that she figures out what SHE did wrong and that doesn’t mean umbrella terms like “trusting others”. She has to think long and hard to figure out what mistakes she made and why she did that. But she has to do that with love for herself, otherwise it wont work. Once she knows why she does it, she can figure out what she can do to overcome those insecurities.