So I think my roomie and I are having major communication issues. As a disclaimer I’ve not moved in with her yet (but paid the first month’s rent). Disclaimer: I’ve also not met her in person, but a good friend has. So she’s fairly recent immigrant from South Asia, and can we speak to each other in urdu or rather I recently started to because it makes my life simpler.
Problem: We have a fairly smallish 12x 7.5 foot room. And she has to get rid of her bed. Feel free to holler at me if you need a king-sized bed and live close to nyc. Yes i’m spamming, but the bed is/was a big part of the problem.
So initially we agreed that we’d get bunk beds to conserve space in the room, however she has a thing against used beds (understandable) but won’t even go for pre-owned frames and neither of us has the money to fulfill her standards. Then she decided against that and we’ll each be getting our own beds and place them in different sides of the room. However, I’ve made posts of craigslist trying to sell off her bed and no one is responding. This will become a problem once I move in in 10 days and she’ll have her huge king-sized bed and my single sized bed in the same room. I’m afraid she won’t sell the bed and then we’ll have problems, like major space problems.
No, I can’t take legal actions because I’ve not signed a lease because the dude who owns the house doesn’t pay taxes for renting his property. Go figure.
So whatever, she has this major problem of when I confront her about this situation or the space constraints and how it’ll work out she comes back with “I’m an easy-going person my prior roommate was awesome and you’re being difficult. I think you should try to find another place next month”
She keeps telling me that we won’t be comfy with one another, that i’m difficult and that I should make other arrangements if I don’t like it there like 2-3 times already. And I don’t even say #%#$#qq! that would warrant that. She just takes me the wrong in everything I say.
Moving out won’t be an option so should I just shut up and deal with it once I got there with my bed and things so she’ll realize that she has to downsize? Her telling me to find other arrangements has seriously rubbed me the wrong way.
How do I stop from her misconstruing what I say. I texted her 24 hours, ago and she still hasn’t replied to airing out the issue and simplifying what I meant. Vat do? Should I just let her handle the bed issue and not talk to her til I get there?
My point in talking about space was just for me to know what I can expect to work with for my own things and not go in there blind (because buying stuff in NYC is a pain in the butt). She took it as me making the room about “this is mine and that is yours” divided kind of thing. Pug my life man.
Just buy the bed and save me from my misery guys. Thanks.
Also, sanity advice.