Roommate Issue 2

Lifestyle Relationships
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Okay, so remember how previously i wrote about a roommate that doesn’t do anything and talks really loud?

Well last night somthing happened, and i want to make sure I didn’t do anything wrong. So this roommate who I’ll call Sonia ( i forgot what I called her before), she talk really really loud on the phone and it goes on for HOURS!!! Like i know her whole life problems, with her sister, her hubby, parents, not because i’m nosy but because she talks loud and you can hear everything from the kitchen and SHE"S ALWAYS ON THE PHONE!!!

Anyways it doesn’t really bother me too much because my bedroom is on the other side of the house, so I don’t have to hear her always. But my other roommate’s (which we’ll call Aisha) room is next to Sonia’s.

Aisha has told her once before to lower her voice /TV (she has her own TV in her room which has on pretty loud a lot of times). I guess Aisha told Sonia last night to lower her voice or TV. So Sonia then moved into the living room to watch TV (which she never does because her TV is in her room). My bedroom is adjacent to the living room. SHe wathced TV really loud for two hours. I didn’t say anything then, Because I figured she’d just go to her room for after the show (grey’s anatomy if you’re wondering) was over. But after the show was over she REMAINED in the living room and started talking on the phone. And I had to study/sleep.

So on an index card I wrote her this and went to the living room and slipped it into her hands while she was talking on the phone (exact words) :

hey sonia, I don’t really tell people to lower their voice, but after two hours of TV and now more phone convo–> please please take it to your room. Please don’t be offended.Thank you- Choti

After about 10-15 minutes she left to her room. I then wrote her a Thank you and slipped it under the door. Anyways she seemed pretty miffed all last night (she was banging her doors and washing her dishes LOUDLY) and seems miffed today too. This morning I saw both index cards on the kitchen counter. Did I do something wrong? Could I have handled it in a better way?

By the way, I have a loud voice (and very high pitched voice) , but I never speak on the phone for more then 10 minutes (and only once a day with my parents) and am at the library most of the time. BUT when people have told me to lower my voice (including SONIA) before, and I have done so IMMEDIATLY and CHEERFULLY. It has actually helped me, because I speak in a lower voice now, and i think my parents will notice a difference too and be happy (and now hardly anyone tells me to lower my voice)!!

Anyways back to the main QUESTION:
Did I do something wrong? Could I have handled it in a better way?

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You didn’t do anything wrong at all

the fact that you actually took action is good :k: stick to your guns and pretend as though nothing happened

if she brings up the issue remind her that some people need their sleep - that cooperation is good that its important that everyone respects one another’s personal space

if that doesn’t work - get yourself some ear plugs and start blasting the music at night

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Take her phone away! :)

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...or a better idea is to use Duck Tape! Its brilliant! :)

dOn't wAIt
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Good Mashwara…I think you missed one minor item…find another room after you follow kenjifu baji’s mashwara…especially last line…lol

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choti jaan there are some people in this world that don't deserve the time of day

they are like creepy crawlies - parasites in the mere sense of the word

ignore them

:)

dOn't wAIt
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As a rules girls never do any thing wrong! what ever they do they would have a genuine reason to do that.
Good thing loud girl is now doing her own dishes , she didn't do that before. right??
And one day when she is busy studying you make noise. And then tell her "you are the nicest person. I acted like this because I think; If you would have known how noise disturb ppl , you would have done that."

And I have that feeling if you don't look down on her and try to enjoy discussion(with her may be) you would have better communication with her.

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I can't find another room. than place is MINE.

iggle....LOL!!! sometimes i SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO want to take her phone away. but a lot of times i feel sorry for her, because she's always on the phone, LITERALLY alomost 12 HOURS A DAY!!! I feel so sorry that Aisha has to deal with her. Again, normally it doesn;t bother me- and my major concern was that I didn't want her too feel like the living room was new "cell phone loud gupshup place" where she go on and on for HOURS (no lie...she can do ATLEAST FIVE HOURS STRAIGHT)!!!!

dOn't wAIt
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You know I have tried to talk to her, but honeslty she's always on the phone, and it's hard to even tell her ANYTHING.

About the dishes...LOL. yeah, last night was wierd. I think she was doing it cuz she was mad. She was MAD. she was banging on the door and the dishes. And she;s really big so she scares me too. I mean me or my other roommate (Beenish) still do her do dishes, whenever we're doing ours.

When Aisha first told her to keep quiet, Sonia retaliated by telling me to lower my voice like the NEXT DAY, when I was talking to Aisha for like 3 minutes in the kitchen. This happened a couple more times. But then I learned to lower my voice. So I don't have the problem anymore. i don't understand why she would be mad, when she's told me the same thing- I quieted down, and said sorry immediatly.

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you know some time its good to enjoy extremely different behaviour of other ppl.
1-IT takes tension away from your brain.
2-she will have good feeling about you

Don't care too much if you agree with her or not, still you can enjoy.
Learn to disagree and and still happy. It goes long way!!

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Aren't we touchy today...lol What happend, hubby didn't bring a breakfast on the bed with flowers on the side? or we woke up from the wrong side of the bed? lol or we just decided to list our qualities in this post......L....OL.....LOL

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Your home atmosphere sounds very suffocating - where everyone is out to get the other before they do. Does not sound like a place I’d want to live in.

Anyway, CJ, just out of courtesy when you want to tell someone something, you say it to them politely. Not write it on a note and shove them in their face like they’re idiots.

If I was on the phone and you came and showed me that note, I would have put the person on hold and gave you a good piece of my mind. Why couldn’t you say it to her and make it more dignified?

On top of that, you leave another thank you note. Ughhh.

When I was on an international exchange, the girl next door left a note on my door about something - and I swear I still have it. That’s how pissed I was, I saw her everyday - we shared a kitchen, she should have had the courtesy to speak to me about this instead of sneaking around and leaving bold notes.

End of my input. :chai:

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funny how self proclaimed adulterers find the time to talk about other peoples *qualities *

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^

I forgot to add the smiley

:)

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…kich her out of da house :sunnyboy:

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kick kerny meen chapal toot bhi sakti hy

fascinating secrets taken to the graves
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oooooo, we are really touchy.........LOL... what's the term....acha never mind....lol.
self proclaimed anything would only harm himself... but silly mashwaras will get someone else on the road......lol

Choti.
Communication is the key. Talk to her with care and love...

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bro.. it dunt matter yeah she’ll buy a new one innit :smokin2:

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12 hours a day?! Wow! Isn’t she deaf by now? :teggy:

Can’t take her phone away…well then that leaves you with the duck tape option! Hehe!

Btw - there is also Gorilla duck tape which is even better! :lajawab: Let me know how much you need and when, as I always keep some in my purse!

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choti sis y dnt ya all talk to her yeah dat might help

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