how do u tell ur friend of 3 years (also roommate now) that u dislike or get irritated by certain habits of her? i dont think im being anal about these issues, at all…
wouldnt it make u wanna throw up if someone walks out of the shower leaving bunches of hair in the drain to clog away and soap suds to dry in the tub… :yukh: how ignorant can one be?
lol she tells me i have issues when i think its nasty that she warms up the same cup of coffee like 3 times a day and then makes a fresh cup in the same mug which has coffee rings on it all the way to the top. (not so fresh!) lol do u think i got issues? i told her today that i aint washin her mugs. muahahahoho
i still gots like 8 months with her.. do u think i should talk about the tub issue or just let it be and live with it? she is kinda sensitive about ppl pointing out stuff to her, and i dont wanna be in an uncomfy position.
JUs tell her that every1 is not perfect n there might be thing about u that might annoy her an if there r then u would liek to discuss it so u guys can live in peace without holding any animosity in ur hearts...
Its better to talk it out n make rules liek who does the bathroom an the kitchen.. (all places which r for common use)
U dont have to say u leave ur hair in the clog so bluntly.. jus sbe nice about it but dont spend the 8 months in misery.. u might miss out on a good friendship if u both hold grudges in ur heart
You shouldn't have to compromise on hair on the drain part, that's absolutely disgusting...and makes anyone wanna barf. Just tell her that it bothers you, sometimes you just gotta say things to even friends...so take a deep breath and let it out. Her coffee cup masla is her own, if she's satisfied with drinking out of the same cup with coffee rings then that's her choice. Let her be.
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Her coffee cup masla is her own, if she's satisfied with drinking out of the same cup with coffee rings then that's her choice. Let her be.
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it kinda becomes my masla too when she leaves like 4 cups in the sink, for four days and i end up washing them.
khair.... aint doin it no mo!
if shes a really good friend … then just be truthful. It’ll help her in the long run as well..
u dont have to scream or yell.. just be nice and tell her to just take the hair outta the drain when she’s done… and yeah with the coffee mugs, just tell her how much bacteria is going inside her cus she doesnt wash em… make it sound really disgusting (im sure it is neways)… hopefully it’ll work… :k:
I had a suitemate last year who would leave the whole sink full of dishes for almost a week at a time. At first i was like it's her business whatever, but then it gets to you cuz we actually started getting fruit flies and all these other insects. I left her a note, not once but a few times. I think she got the hint, but then again she wasn't a "friend" but we were on good terms with each other. Don't do her dirty work for her, leave her notes, and talk to her...are you living with other girls as well? And do you know if they are bothered by it too? Then i think you guys should have a group meeting.
I had a suitemate last year who would leave the whole sink full of dishes for almost a week at a time. At first i was like it's her business whatever, but then it gets to you cuz we actually started getting fruit flies and all these other insects. I left her a note, not once but a few times. I think she got the hint, but then again she wasn't a "friend" but we were on good terms with each other. Don't do her dirty work for her, leave her notes, and talk to her...are you living with other girls as well? And do you know if they are bothered by it too? Then i think you guys should have a group meeting.
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its just the two of us. we are pretty good friends and get along well. lekin we have never had a fight, ya know? i dont know how healthy that is... hehe... we both kinda avoid it and know when to shut up.
i did do the whole drano routine and made sure she knew i was doing it coz the drain was clogged... hopefully that did give her the message and hopefully she will be careful about it now.
^^ That's a start. Good luck. My roommate is on the messy side too, i mean i'm messy too but comparatively my side of the room still looks decent. Our room was in a major need for vacuuming and it's usually me who vacuums it even after dropping hints. So today, i dragged her down with me to get the vacuum from the building office, and then she moved things around while i vacuumed.
ugh i feel sorry for you. i had a roommate once who used the same dishcloth that she used to wipe the kitchen counters, but she used it to wash the dishes as well. :ulti wala icon: i don’t know, it REALLY freaked me out the first time i saw that. i felt like i was going to barf. It’s the thought that, who knows what type of germs - from meat (salmonella poisoning?) were on the counter to begin with - and then you have transferred those to our utensils. Not hygienic or safe.
oh well i never said anything about it to her, i felt like an idiot, i mean it wasn’t the end of the world as i perhaps made it out to be back then. i sincerely wish you good luck with your situation.
OMG i soo know wat ur talking about regarding doing the dishes… the first week when we moved into our dorm, she started doing them by filling up the sink and pouring dish washing liquid into the sink full of dishes.. i just watched the first time. then second time i was like… dude can u not fill the sink up and actually wash them properly.
lol… she is like… this is how u wash dishes… i was just like kay Allah in logon ko thori see aqal day.
im gonna stop now coz i can just go onn and onnn about all this. lol
LOL … i knew someone who after washing the dishes, would still leave some soap suds on the plates and glasses. When i asked her why she did this, she was like - ‘oh but i dry the plates with a towel afterwards’. She used to dry the soapy plates with a small kitchen towel, probably the same one she used to wipe the counters. Even after the towel-dry, there would still be some soap suds left on the dishes - and that’s how the plates would go into the cabinet. :yukh: i can sympathize so well with the filling up of the sink. When i took home ec classes back in junior high, that’s how they made us wash the dishes. It’s something that i have only noticed in North America or at least outside of Asia - back in Abu Dhabi, i didn’t know anyone who washed their dishes this way.
i don’t know, i’m not a very clean person when it comes to my room, but at least when it comes to kitchen issues - from a hygienic point of view, it sometimes bothers me when these kinds of things happen. Maybe i am being too fussy, maybe that’s it - i am not certain oh well.
awww… i know just how u feel…but believe me if there are things u don’t like about her way of living there are also things that she doesnt like about ur ways either, u guy should get together and talk it out but keep the tempers down n dont say nething u might regret later, its always hard to have someone u were friends with before as a roommate because roommates have a completely unique relationship and sometimes friendships cannot adjust to a new surrounding and are broken…
well me and my three cousins share an apartment, two of us to one bedroom…we’re all pretty neat but theres always something that the others do that annoys me n i’m sure that there are things i do that annoy them as well…its comes with the territory
the only thing that rele gets me mad is if someone borrows my clothes without asking, which they tend to do a lot, I FINALLY got a lock for my closet to keep them out.
as for the dishes, we have a dishwasher so the way it works is u rinse ur plate n put it in and it gets emptied every third day so we all take turns with that..and the coffee thing, well we usually drink coffee at work/school so no problem there.
The best thing tho is that we all come and leave at different times so there isnt ne problem with the shower, nobody leaves hairs either thankfully
No need for any drama or anything or diplomacy, do what men do, tell her that you think it's gross to leave hair in the drain and that you want her to do her share in cleaning up the drain and the rest of the house. Be blunt, I assure you that for a day or two she'll be a little upset and then after a day or two, take her out for some coffee and tell her that you appreciate her cleaning up after herself.
i hate sharing clothes, unless ofcourse its my sister or cousins.. lekin not on a regular basis, before i get to wear them.
she did borrow one of my sweaters last week and then wore it allll day long and smoked and all… nasty! lekin i couldnt say no to her. lekin the nerve to just go into my stuff, pick it out and then ask me. lol
i feel sorry for you. i had a roommate once who used the same dishcloth that she used to wipe the kitchen counters, but she used it to wash the dishes as well. :ulti wala icon: i don’t know, it REALLY freaked me out the first time i saw that. i felt like i was going to barf. It’s the thought that, who knows what type of germs - from meat (salmonella poisoning?) were on the counter to begin with - and then you have transferred those to our utensils. Not hygienic or safe.
i just watched the first time. then second time i was like… dude can u not fill the sink up and actually wash them properly.
… i knew someone who after washing the dishes, would still leave some soap suds on the plates and glasses. When i asked her why she did this, she was like - ‘oh but i dry the plates with a towel afterwards’. She used to dry the soapy plates with a small kitchen towel, probably the same one she used to wipe the counters. Even after the towel-dry, there would still be some soap suds left on the dishes - and that’s how the plates would go into the cabinet. :yukh: i can sympathize so well with the filling up of the sink. When i took home ec classes back in junior high, that’s how they made us wash the dishes. It’s something that i have only noticed in North America or at least outside of Asia - back in Abu Dhabi, i didn’t know anyone who washed their dishes this way.
i know just how u feel…but believe me if there are things u don’t like about her way of living there are also things that she doesnt like about ur ways either, u guy should get together and talk it out but keep the tempers down n dont say nething u might regret later, its always hard to have someone u were friends with before as a roommate because roommates have a completely unique relationship and sometimes friendships cannot adjust to a new surrounding and are broken…