ristha

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why elder siblings always nosy in rishta process and imposing her proposal on me?

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ask them..

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the proposal she received or proposal she has for u?

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she received and searched for me but she is not considering my match and requirement. it sucks.

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cuz she wants to get rid of u :eek:!!!

Or maybe you are being unrealistic and she being the wise one (im assuming :p) is trying to make you realise that there is nothing like a perfect match.

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Chaand Babu...kehtay hain k hum doosron ko KHUD sikhatay hain k unhay hum ko kis tarha se treat karna chahiye. Does that make sense? You teach others how they should behave with you. Theek hai...tum apni family main sab se baray nahin ho. Even if you are the youngest sibling in your family........tum chotay bachay bhi nahin ho. You are a grown man...and that's why there's a rishta search going on for you....so why don't you act like a grown man?

Your elder siblings treat you like that because it's natural for them to be protective of the younger ones.......BUT.....at the same time....I think they push you around because you let them. Maybe you whine, complain....but you don't take strong enough action. If you show them a few times that you will not be controlled by them......they'll eventually (it may not happen right away)...but eventually they will let you have more freedom in the matter.

Tell them firmly that what your requirements are...and that if they don't find girls that meet most of your requirements.....you simply will NOT visit that girl/rishta. And stand your ground and don't go. Even if your sibling say that they have made the phone call and the larki walay are waiting........don't go. Your siblings will feel embarrased....and will be more considerate of your wishes next time.

If you visit every rishta that they force on you (even if you're not interested in the girl)...if you follow every order that they give you.....of course they will push you around.

Eventually they should start being more sensitive to your requirements...and if not....find a girl by yourself.

Or if you have a job and make a good amount of money....move out and get your own place. That, too, can send them a message. Your elder siblings might be wrong about things.....but I think that you TOO are part of the problem.