*PART 1 OF 2
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**Introduction
**There are inherent problems when marrying from abroad. I strongly advise against it. My views are at the extreme end of the spectrum, I am sure others will paint a rosier picture. It’s always best to consider opposing arguments before making your final fateful decision.
Appearances
Not important in my humble opinion but we are a superficial bunch.
Pakistanis are darker (relatively), have a customary mustache as a symbol of their nationalism, a peculiar western dress sense and stomach churning accent.
Depression
Away from family, friends and living in a strange society. False perceptions about the West and long toilsome working hours. The solitude and incessant lustful longings/yearnings for home will be insurmountable, leading to depression. Further burdening your fragile relationship which will already be buckling under the stress.
**Financial issues.**
Your spouse will never be able to compete with a western graduate even when their qualifications are equivalent and recognised. Many even those with qualifications will end up in low paid menial jobs e.g. refuse collecting, catering industry, call centre, fish and chip shop.
On this meagre wage they will undoubtedly send remittances home e.g. so their mother can be lavished with golden bangles (sonay kay karay), so their grandfather can purchase a plush rocking chair (equipped with all the latest modern accessories and gadgets) and last but not least, to support their idle brothers which there will be aplenty. You may end up remortgaging your property or even worse (destitute) in a desperate attempt to fund your in-laws spiraling health or housing (or should I say luxurious mansion/penthouse) construction costs.
Furthermore you will have to consider housing and feeding any relatives (close or distant) as your castle will be seen as the golden gate entrance to the elusive Western utopian dream.
Any remaining threadbare finances will be blown away on frequent trips abroad.
Ultimately you will be scraping the bottom of the barrel to get by and this will put a strain on your relationship.
*Reasons for the marriage *
In my opinion those who seek marriage abroad are British or North American flag worshipers and whilst blissfully asleep are drooling about being draped in a Union Jack or Confederate lungi (from thier perspective a mouth watering proposition).
The undeniable evidence is borne out by the fact that most of them elope to the West once married.
Pakistan is teeming with over a 170 million populous, with the vast majority under the age of 30. It is rather perplexing, why they struggle to find a compatible match within their homeland (must be besieged with requests) where their links are concrete, conversely their associations in the West are rather more tenuous.
They frown upon Western immorality and independence so why pluck a future partner from such obscurity when you could have a tailor fashioned submissive obedient Pakistani spouse.
If the basis of marriage is fundamentally flawed then the seeds of destruction will have been sown and the impending doom will be inevitable.
No crumbs of comfort in part 2 either, to be continued....................................................
