Rishtas abroad

[phoenixdesi]

Re: Rishtas abroad

@PyariCgudia

^ What the heck? I think she’s saying people were seeking out these girls attending religious classes/groups, because the assumption was “oh these must be easy mold-able girls”. The minute any of them expressed they were smart, had any career aspirations, personal goals apart from cooking for their sons, they were probably looked over.

I can see that’s what happened in my case. Most of the girls who initially got married in my “biradari” were the girls who didn’t go to college. That’s how bad it is in my community. To fetch a good marriage, I’d have to time travel back to 17, and decide to flunk out in high school, and not go to college.

fair observations PCG … i know USA muslim social culture very well and agree with you.

why cant muslim girls go to online shadi forums? are they completely useless? did you try that? isna/icna sessions are piece of crap and total wastage of time plus frequency of those events is so low. and what about some muslim matchmakers in big USA cities?

at end of the day, it is your life. your no 1 priority shd not be to find a Muslim guy but to find a guy who is of good character. someone who is a good human being and who loves you and your family and who wants to be with you. when you will be an older single woman, this so called Muslim community will do nothing but feel sorry for you.

so if you find a guy who wants to marry you genuinely and if he is not a muslim, it is OK…after-all who gave him birth to a non muslim family? plus you can ask him to convert..many times they do as religion is not so important for them.

I am not a scholar by any means but i feel that Allah subhan Tallah is very merciful and understands social necessities. Muslim scholars who do nothing but to create more problems for Muslims shd come up with new guidelines for Muslims who are a vast minority in western societies. For example, declare muslim guys marrying non Muslims haram because that decreases TAM (total available market) for muslim girls or let muslim girls marry non muslim guys as well.