Ok, so I’m going to assume that most of you here are of marriage-able age and have inevitably been forced into some awkward conversations about rishtas and all that fun stuff…
So my question to you is…how do u deal with it?? Do you try to a) run away from the situation b) change the topic c) be honest and frank?
Anybody got any interesting stories about any particularly awkward conversations/moments??
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The awkward conversation about rishtas I had was trying to persuade my mother that she ought to start trying to find me one!!!
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Well more power to ya..
I'm kinda looking for the opposite end of the situation..where you DON't wanna be bothered...at least at that moment..
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well i just tell um, i will find one maself.
i think u should be frank and honest with um
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frank and honest is the best way ......... in a huge issue such as marriage....you should make all your demands, interests clear with your parents to avoid problems....
i know its not easy to communicate with parents all the time but keep in mind that its an IMP issue.....it will affect YOUR life the most so better be vocal than sorry...
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The only time my mom asking was 3 years ago
and back then..mein ne hath jor diyee..keh lemme concentrated on my studies abhi
but uskey bad she never asked 
kia keron ? 
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If you don't mind me saying, as someone who stupidly took the advice of those who got married early and told me to "wait"...don't wait...at least not too long. At the very least engage your parents about it, and most importantly start thinking about it. Trust me, it's worth the "bother"...
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I was at the ISNA conference a few years ago with my parents. They had run into some really old friends that they hadn't seen in ages. My mom was telling the aunty that I was her youngest daughter when suddenly the aunty grabbed me and said.."Yeh tho meri hai." I was like wha????? My mom got totally weirded out and cut the conversation short so that we could make a fast get away!!
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Wow, thats pretty blatant...
Nothing as bad has ever happened to me, but yes..my mom has also totally tried to protect me from these weird-ass aunty types...
thank goodness for that....
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this year its been different: i was mad pretty much everytime it was brought up.. so now "all quiet on the western front"...
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Want to swap parents? 
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I totally know what you're talking about faizy...whenever the topic comes up..i dunno..it provokes this extremely violent, annoyed and irritable reaction from me....so now my parents and I kind of have this silent awkwardness between us about this...
I mean..i know I need to start talking about it in order to make this happen..its not like I'm running away from it..it's just that..I dunno..I'm not comfortable with the whole process with my parents..
nor do i have a changa munda of my own ;-)
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Why the discomfort with the process?
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well, b4 gettin into med school ( a yr ago) whenever my mom brought that subject i would jump here and there and adt childish and run away…but now when she does i actually talk to her about it and tell her how i feel towards that.
My mom said wants me to get hooked up with someone in a yr now and my dad says, bachi hai abhi parhnay dou 
and i basically say its all upto Allah , b/c time maqsoos hai. So, it dont irritate me at all…i have been changed a lot after livin alone for a yr…u learn a lot get more mature i guess!
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I guess its because I've always had a major lack of communication with my parents...we've never really seen eye to eye on anything...and I've always made all my major decsions on my own...
I mean, they've been supportive...very supportive and respected all my decisions..but they've never really warmed up to establishing good communication with me... I guess thats just the way they were brought up...
I've tried...a number of times..to kind of break the ice between us...especially on topics like this..but there's just too much space in between...
sigh
ab kya kiya jaaye?
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I had a wonderful fight with my mother on this topic just few days back......i am too stubborn and stupid...........
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tell you what? very few people are honest about themselves 
p:hehe:
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:( Yeah i know AQ.....