its my first very own thread so shy in a way lol. the reason for my thread is that i have a rishta proposal coming this friday and im so nervous. i dont know how to behave, what to expect, what to do, what to wear. this whole thing is new to me. i am nervous and i will be on display.
a little background information i know they guy since University times and his parents are coming to ask for my hand.
so guys help me out here please? advice me on everything and anythng that i should and should not do.
awwie, dnt worry its ok! just dnt make a big deal out of it or have big expectations n u’ll do good. the more u think abt it, the more nervous u’ll be and that won’t help u that day :nono:. Just be yrself, dnt doll up too much- keep it simple and u’ll rock!
Don't eat any samosay and try and figure out the flower pattern of the carpet.
Oh and the standard 'be yourself' <--- rubbish advice as ye cannit be 'yourself', it doesnt actually mean anything in these situations. Try and relax but whatever you wear make sure its comfortable and you feel confident wearing it.
Depending on the situation, if you have siblings, they can call you over. But usually your mom will tell you "ok beta. Ap jain." Or give you some excuse to set you free.
Dont be nervous! Insha Allah it'll go fine and you won't even realize as the time flies and soon enough they'll be asking for 'ijazat to leave' :p
thanks, so how long do i hve to sit with them? do i come in later? or am i to be in there face from the start? is it rude to get up after a while?
^The answers to the above questions will vary from one family to another. Your parents (mom, especially) can easily answer these questions and they'll help guide the flow of things on the day that the guy and his family visit. Plus what the various posters suggest may not be the way that things are done in your family. So, talk to your mom about it.
What RV said. Your mom is the right person to go to. U said you 'know' this guy, are you in touch with him? if yes, he can give you few tips about his family too.
Many of the questions you're asking....can only be answered by your mother since I'm assuming she'll be the one in charge of deciding all the details in regards to this meeting from your end (ie. the type of food served, when will you make your entrance etc.). I also imagine she has a certain "look" in mind for you for this meeting.
Have you discussed any of these concerns with her at all?
Besides, since you already know the guy and you know for a fact that he likes you (and I imagine you like him too).....that's a major reason for you not to be nervous. The guy already likes you and he has already convinced his parents that you'd be a good choice for him.
MArying out the family is a big thing for my family as none of my sisters have done so. its going against all my parents wishes but yet they have decided to see the family. Dad is in control here and my mum will not speak to me about the matter. i dont have any support at home hence why i posted here!
ur potential rishta is coming and you are wasting your time here? you should be in the kitchen [with DupaTTaa tied around your waste] cooking 22 dishes all labeled “my daughter made this!” and getting ready for the occasion! desi folks love food made by their would be “daughter-in-laws”!
hehe…my wife will wrap rupaTTaa around her waste while cooking for me…it looks professional, you know! i’ll have this clause in my prenuptial agreements!
saikah: It is nice to see that you and your potential guy know to each other. Your comments suggest me that your mom is not happy while you dad wants to proceed. It looks love matter to me. As RV mentioned that in first meeting, it is girl’s mom who execute whole show and guide you since inception of the meeting.
It is not necessary to make food, but you can participate in few dishes.
im so scared and nervous
just dnt make a big deal out of it or have big expectations n u’ll do good. the more u think abt it, the more nervous u’ll be and that won’t help u that day :nono:. Just be yrself, dnt doll up too much- keep it simple and u’ll rock!
desi folks love food made by their would be “daughter-in-laws”! 
