I have been quite amused and confused with the way Desis conduct Rishta practices. There is less straight forwardness and more of “Batein Marna”. Its a phenomenon and it seems like the only way of finding out whether the boy likes the girl and vise verse. It is also a great way to convey message to the parents of the girl and boy. Some of the common things to hear for Boys “Aapkay parents kafi old hote ja rahe hain”. For girl “Beti parhai aur career tu chal ta rahe ga ghar bhi tu basana hai.” “Tumhari ammi kafi pareshan rehti hain tumhare liye” and the best one is for parents “Shadi ghar main ho tu acha hai”.
You will see and observe in many gatherings that the rishtadars would surround the Boys or Girl’s parents, in most cases mother, among the perspective rishtas and observe how they would react. Eyes will move from one end to another and gossiping will start. One comment or action will give the message or a “Ghalat Fehmi” that they are interested the than the word will spread on and over the phone.
It is quite common and I have observed that for a quite while and the more I see, I feel that the generation of our parents just don’t seem to get it. Most of the Singles would never want to get hitched like that because nowadays there are so many issues that need to be discussed and sorted out.
These practices only create unnecessary gossip, false hope and misunderstanding.
