rishta rejection

Lifestyle Relationships
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if the party that checked out a rishta in question is giving no confirmed yes or no, and give a message through the ristha aunti (a mutual friend of both parties) say they have no immediate plans to pursue, as the parents are out of country- in pak and have visa issues right now, and report that the parents will check out the rishta make a desicion before they send a confirmed proposal…however, the parents have made no promises of when and if this will happen, they just keep saying we can’t give a confirmed answer this message comes from ristha aunty and they’ve not made no personal connection themselves.. so what do you make of this is it a humble no?
our family is looking for a confirmed no so we can plan a trip to pak and check out ristha there, should we move on anyways.
the son came and checked out ristha by his self with family friend aunty.

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Tell the rishta auntie that you will go to Pakistan if she does not let you know in next two weeks. Personally I think it is a humble no.

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hoor bano - if they are behaving like this right now just imagine how will they behave later on ! why you and your family is giving so much of importance to them ? I don't think they are serious , yes or no question comes when they are serious. The guy is just looking around for girls without any serious intentions. Barh main dalo unko and carry on with your plans and even if they contact you back tell them sorry you took too much time.

seriously , don't even think abt such ppl.

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Its a no.

Go to Pakistan and forget about this rishta.

If they try to contact you...please tell them your whole khandaan is out of town and until they return...he should wait.

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yes - dont think that much

Jahan app ka rista hona ho gaa - ho jayee ga

Just Pray ka jahan ho - acha ho !!

good luck

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hahaha reha ur soooo smartttt!!!

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yes, reha n diamond is telling u the right thing. . .

so dnt wait for their answer. . . go for good in name of ALLAH

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Well it depends. Some people gain time to chk other rishtas meanwhile n if they are not able to find anything more acceptable than your rishta they would come back to you. Unfortunately that's how this rishta stuff works but i dont know if we can even blame them for this cuz this is life everyone wants to be sure before saying yes to a rishta.

I think you guys need to do the same, look for more options for yrself.

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NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! The guy was soooooooo hot too! Gosh I guess I didn't want it to be a NO. Kind of could guess because they are not moving forward, it'd be one thing if they kinda liked everything and then personally reached out and said we may have plans for the future, but no communication is probably and cold harsh NO! Imma save my little dignity I have left and go off to pak as the plan is for next month!!

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It would have been better here because he was already in new york, i guess if you have to deal with a fresh person settling in a faltering economy you have to do what you have to do!! May Allah take everyone's stress and source of anxiety away and grant them an easier life!

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don't talk to them through the auntie, talk to them directly.

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Communication would be more clearer if you talked to the guy's family, as Hareem said above. That way it's more direct and you get a clearer picture. I could be wrong, but it seems like a "No" to me. If they were definitely interested and absolutely sure, they wouldn't be so wishy-washy. It seems like they're shopping around to see what else is out there. Some people don't feel comfortable saying that they're not interested, so they either stall or don't give an answer as a hint that they don't want to pursue it any further. They let the silence do the talking.

While it's not entirely impossible that this guy and his parents may get in touch with at a later point, I say don't put your life on hold for them, don't sit around waiting for them either, and don't take their behavior personally as they are strangers; you don't know them. You'd much rather be with someone who really wants to be with you. Pursue the next rishta. You might find someone even better than this hot guy.

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Yeah my dad said they don't have pakay iradain, and it sounds like they may be shopping around for other risthas. probably easier for them to do it in pakistan anyways with the parents present there and all, we had asked them to give us a direct answer as we were supposed to check out other risthas, and all they said we don't have immediate plans to take this further. i think pakis should be more clear, a direct "no" is much easier to deal with. very much easier and clearer!

RV: we do have their number but my parents are traditional they would rather his parents contact us if they need to.

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I guess I just have to pray I get something better than what I lost! :(

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Reha your so funny. coincidentally enough they are going to be out of town for my wedding!!

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yeahhh even the rishta auntie because they are in no rush, it doesn't sound like they are serious. wedding for them is happening next december, they can shop for girls all they want until then, my parents are looking for as soon as possible.