Hey, I’ve seen a few threads here, were girls have asked for help, for questions to ask a potential rishta …
I found these on a “baba ali” video, I tought they were quite good, so here it goes (Feel free to write more down :))
When was the last time you got angry and what made you angry?
What is the hardest thing for you to follow in islam and why?
How often do you wake up for Fajr?
If you had to invite only one group of people to your wedding, whould it be your friends
or your family and why?
Are you a better listener or speaker?
If you got into an argument with your spouse, how would you settle it?
What role does Islam play in your life?
When you are upset, how do you communicate?
What do you look for in a husband/wife?
If something is bothering you, how long will it take for you to bring it up?
I can come up with most perfect answers to these questions , but doesn't mean I can be a good spouse . Few people are just good with words , and can answer totally different than their own personality . Happens all the time in job interviews .
I think its better to learn their life story , and try to judge them on the decisions they made in their life .
i dont think its about letting the potential spouse answer these questions, its more on your part to figure them out without them even realizing you are noticing these things about them...that way they dont get a chance to sugar coat things.
Those are pretty good questions. But like Namaan said, people will say what they think you want to hear... most people try to put their best foot forward, create a good impression.
I remember one of my teachers once said that when in a serious relationship, ask the other person about kids... when they plan on having them, how many, and how you plan on raising the (strict environment, punishments, etc.)... because differences in raising kids can lead to conflicts.