Re: Rishta question!
I know these things can be confusing but the best thing to do in times like these is to get some perspective.
For starters, do you already have a list of characteristics and traits that are an absolute MUST in your mind? Meaning, the items on this list are those that you CANNOT compromise on under any situation (eg, level of religiousness, living situation etc). He if ticks all of them, then great go ahead. If not, faida nahi he. If he can’t meet these few criteria then you already know it’s not worth it to spend time on it because you won’t compromise on these things.
Now, if he does meet all the items on your “uncompromisable” list, then you can proceed to the other list where “yes, you’d like these things in a guy, but it’s not the end of the world if he doesn’t come with it”. Meaning things in/about a person you prefer but don’t mind compromising on. Look for those and have a discussion with yourself. It will automatically make things easy for you.
As for your current situation about this guy, you said he doesnt meet some “very important boxes”. You have to ask yourself if you can compromise on them. If you ABSOLUTELY can’t then don’t encourage the situation. Let it go and save yourself and him some time. However, if they are things that you can get over, there is no harm in meeting somebody. Maybe, meeting him in person will give you some perspective. Talking to him might change your mind.
Talk to yourself and see how you feel. If you think it will help you to reach a conclusion by meeting him, there’s no harm but if there are things that already freak you out or alarm you, better to back of now. Best of luck with it
Thank you for your post, it really has helped. I did do the whole list of pros and cons, but the problem is like others have said, I feel bad for rejecting someone without even speaking to them.