One thing I found that was sooooo annoying with the rishta process is constant judging and evaluating you have to go through. Its nerve wracking and there is no room for mistakes...you have to be perfect!
Another bad point is the pressure. Once you get past the intial stage of "alright, the guy seems normal"...there is this pressure to say yes almost immediatly. Parents get excited and read a little too much into the getting past the first step...this used to freak me out so much...a lot of time I wouldnt bother because I felt I wouldnt get a chance to know the guy.
The good thing is, your parents evaluate and do a good job of finding a guy with sound character...based on their life experience...they can pick up on things I cant.
agree! too much pressure and I hate the formality involved.
Pros: a great process for those people who are extremely busy in studying or careers and do not have the time to find someone on their own, keeps one from doing things "haram" and such things that may effect their reputation....cuz God knows desi's love to talk trash and slander peoples reputations even if the intention of getting to know someone is for the sole purpose of marriage.
PSquared....parents can always evaluate AFTER you have gotten to know him on your own 2.