How is rishta process handled in pakistani families, is there any rules? My sister had few days ago a rishta visit, where a mutual family friend of both families introdouced both sides. Nothing regarding rishta was mentioned on the tea-meeting, both familes had a general chat for couple of hours.
Now four days has passed, are the guys side suppose to accept/reject and tell us this or just silently pass? What is normal time for guys families to respond to girls family?
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why i keep on reading your nick as Nadani
unless 2-3 meetings are done, normally messages are passed through the mutual friend who was the original facilitator. Wait for a week and then your parents can check with that mutual friend.
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That is how it’s done, but I don’t know how effective that really is…I had a rishta like that once upon a time. After meeting the guy, I knew I wasn’t interested and told my parents as much. My parents passed this onto the mutual family friend. I have no idea what went on behind the scenes, but I guess this “friend” didn’t pass on the message (I guess he felt bad or was maybe hoping I’d change my mind?) and the guy was calling my parents and emailing/fb messaging me for several months after that. It was…awkward.
Good luck Nandani! I would really try to encourage your folks to contact the guy’s parents directly. Makes everything so much easier!
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The contact is only thru this 3rd person, so no chance that my dad will contact them directly.
We where hoping for atleast some reply till now, even if its a no it doesnt matter.
what is process on guy side after they visit a girls house?
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if after a week no news then just assume its a no
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ur nick is Nand*ani or Nandi*ni?
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in my experience if the other party is not interested, then a lot of people don't give a yes or no, they just never contact you again. So if you don't hear for a while you can assume they're not interested.
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Yeah, in these cases usually no news is not good news..
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LOL, it could take up to a few weeks sometimes, so don't just go by this 1 week rule.
In the mean time, pray to Allah swt that whatever is best for you comes your way iA.
Good Luck !
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minhasmd is right. This is one of the most important decisions in a person's life. Just because you haven't heard back, doesn't mean it's an automatic no. But don't wait around hoping they'll say yes either. Keep your options open and if there are any other candidates, definitely meet with them as well.
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interested families give hints during 1st meeting like they invite u for 2nd meeting etc and some people call after discussion at home. so you can wait for 1 week and if they doesn't call u then it means they are not interested.