Calling all those who are either married or going through the rishta processes…when the rishta came to ur house what was the attitude of the potential mother in law with you and with your own mother?? How many of u find that ur mil gets on with ur own mother during the rishta finalising stage? Bear in mind that the rishta comes through official channels and the mil came to ur house out of her own accord.
We have had 2 really good rishte approach us for my sister recently yet we noticed that in both situations that potential mil has not made any conversation with either my sister or even my mum. Although she seems bubbly and talkative with everyone else. What do u think the reason for this could be? Has anyone else also been through this? we are confused!
What other people go through won't have any bearing on what your family goes through. Remember that.
Now I can imagine it was a matter of not acting as if it was 'Pukka' or whatever. Maybe they thought being too comfortable with your sister or mum would convey that? I'm sure some people think like that.
We have had 2 really good rishte approach us for my sister recently yet we noticed that in both situations that potential mil has not made any conversation with either my sister or even my mum. Although she seems bubbly and talkative with everyone else. What do u think the reason for this could be? Has anyone else also been through this? we are confused!
how do you know that she(potential mil) is interested.
I think most women turn retards when they are out on a girl hunt for their boys. They think if they show too much enthusiasm, it will be taken as she is head over heels for the girl n they never want to show it. But believe me, if the prospect mil really likes you she will show her affection or lets just say she won't be able to hide it that much.
I might be wrong, but the potential MIL probably feels she needs to be slightly reserved - especially if the guys side's options are still open. She probably doesn't want to lead your family on, in thinking that they are VERY interested, and then if they find another potential rishta, which suits them better, they won't want this rishta to proceed. This way she won't dash any hopes, as your expectations were low to begin with anyway.
In my experience, my to-be MIL was really talkative to everyone - sometimes I think she doesn't know what reserved is, lol. :D
Anyways, I hope you the best of luck, and yes, remember that any two situations are never the same.
well they are def interested because they are pushing are us for either mangni or nikkah asap and both the potential mil and fil have clearly stated they want this to happen but on the occassions we have met, the mil has never asked my sis anything. Nor does she talk much my mother. She is very talkative to her entire family and even to the rest of my family which shows she is not quiet by nature.
I can understand if she doesnt want to be too enthusiastic with my sis but surely she should address my mum when talking. Like last time we went to thier house for dinner, my mum was sitting next to her at the table but throughout dinner she just kept talking to me and i was just embarrased as my mum just sat there quitely eating. Afterwards both mil and fil took my parents into another room and tried to get them to do baat paaki and asked them how long they needed to decide. Confused**
well they are def interested because they are pushing are us for either mangni or nikkah asap and both the potential mil and fil have clearly stated they want this to happen but on the occassions we have met, the mil has never asked my sis anything. Nor does she talk much my mother. She is very talkative to her entire family and even to the rest of my family which shows she is not quiet by nature.
I can understand if she doesnt want to be too enthusiastic with my sis but surely she should address my mum when talking. Like last time we went to thier house for dinner, my mum was sitting next to her at the table but throughout dinner she just kept talking to me and i was just embarrased as my mum just sat there quitely eating. Afterwards both mil and fil took my parents into another room and tried to get them to do baat paaki and asked them how long they needed to decide. Confused**
i'm in a similar situation but with the potential fil. he didn't say 2 words to my dad when they were here, to the point where my parents thought that he was unhappy with the proposal. Some drama happened with the adults (I hate desi parents and their overblown egos) and now they're trying to patch things up with us. But the fil WHO NEVER TALKED TO ME WHEN HE WAS HERE, is sending me page long emails everyday about everything...randomly...my moms convinced ke woh pasani ki koshish kar rahay hai mujhe...but that seems so creepy and weird for an uncle to take part in...
And the misunderstanding occurred because the boys mom was like obsessed with me because she thought i didn't like her son...as soon as she found out that we were both interested, she started showing nakhray to an extreme...which caused HUGE problems. So i agree with some of the ppl above, maybe she's just trying to not show extreme interest or something.
