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Just relax, be calm and have fun. Remember it's you who's gettting married so be active and get the info you need to evaluate if she meets your requirements. Same goes for the girl. This is not a time to be shy. If he's having jitter's at this stage, then he's not man enough to be getting married right now.
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Hell no.
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I dont why they go over hte girls' house... Does the girl ever go over HIS house during the whole arranging rishta process? That's where she might be living so why not c it?
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gosh you lot crack me up when I’m bored outta my mind!
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well i wrote a reply while i watched law and order... and the thing crapped on itself. so i lost it. and now i am pisssssed.
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funny how you can watch law and order over the NBC watergate special, but whatever... about as believeable as the rest of it...
ashy :D cute, lol
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ok i feel betta now. some good stuff here. i will definitely be calling him to share some of these.
minah pa, worked what... where... who? all i get from ur post is that whatever u smoke before posting must be some good sh(i)t yaar.
verizon, i hear you brotha man. politics and religion on first meet is bad idea regardless. its just hard to be yourself when u sit infront of ur possible future wifes parents, inlaws and the pressure of trying to be at ur best behavior.
wannabe, thanks.... dont want that first day.
ansoo, thanks. i hope it works out for his sake too.
Femme Fatale, lol.... i cant beleive someone did that. the only thign worst would be a girl on the phone and the guy saying "i'll see you tonight, honey". i think that would warrants an as(s) whopping. :) good point about the sense of humor... i already told him to bust out the panjabi jokes he knows but they might not work cos girls family isnt panjabi. we'll see if he dominates or wiggles his tail like a cat. ;)
Luxury item, serious binnis... hahhahahhaha. can i have ur binnis card? he is a 27 soon to be 28 yr old bhudda. if he isnt going to get married now he might never get a chance again. andar kee gal... i know girls dig immature guys.
sara516, nice name. but why would u want a mama's boy?
Attia, thanks for the advice yaar. now one advice for you. dont tell this to your parents... its called apnay per pai kulhari. do what i do ok... the only stories i tell my mom is 'so and so's son married a mexican hoochie' and 'so and so's son ran away with a hindu girl'.... this keeps them appreciating me and also keeps the expectations managable.
p.s. yes its not me. i am too much of a man for this kind of a rishta process. but i am in the market for a part time no strings attached ghar damad position. got a vacancy?
ahmedjee, finally someone who agrees with me. yaar this chai for rishta is as outdated as windows 95 and should be phased out. but i guess if it leads to the parents deciding that the girl and guy should meet and decide on how and when they can meet... then its okay i guess. but its too much damn pressure for a 30 minute window to gauge how u feel about a girl or a guy.
but i dont know if living with strangers is a good idea to decide if u like them. frankly who cares if parents get along with each other and whats their lifestyle. Once you are married you should plan to create your own new lifestyle not necessarily borrow it from either of your parents. the whole process should be geared towards finding out if the guy and girl like each other. this chai is just too much of a pressure cooker.
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minah pa, hahaha... smart one heh. i did write most of the above during law and order. it came on before watergate investigation. then i watched all of the investigation... felt so bad for Mark Felt when he said "i want to write a book to finally make some money" can you beleive the guy lives in a garage now with his daughter. how sad.
much love,
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Thanks 
I dont like ur nickname 
Going for an arranged thing does not make one a loser or mama’s boy. Most parents, at least mine and the ones I know, don’t work like that. They have different standards for you. My parents don’t care if other girls are out slutting around or not, they care about ME.
It does make a differnece how her parents are. You’re going to be spending your life wiht this woman, you have to c how her parents are, since she’s obviously going to have some of their habits and traits; kids are products of thier parents. Of course the couple needs to care for each other and love each other, but u can’t just totally disregard the family in this scenario. I’ts such a western concept, of being individualistic, not caring about what others think or feel or say. I think that’s a contributing factor to the rising divorce rate. I’m wiht you in that once they’re married, they should start a new life together and living with strangers is a very scary and strange thing; however, I don’t agree with teh statement about totally putting aside parents’ feelings in choosing a partner.
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yeah right.. i wish i knew ur mom.. that way i dont think u will able to say this again to ur mom.. or she will say “bayta ap bee kuch kam nahi ho” 
nahi dear, iam not of ur type person to have vacancy.. iwill hire once and he will be with me foreva.. i dont get to advertise for vacany everyday like others
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^ I dont know any family who really falls for those type of stories.... sorry but those parents must be really dumb if they believe that stuff...
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^ are u talking to me 
which kind of stories? and which kinda families? 
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What were u talking about?
I thot uw ere talking about how families don't fall for the "oh but so and so is doing this much worse things".... and i meant... i don't know any families that fall for that crap.. i tried when i was in HS and they didnt go for it.
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sara516, now why would you indirectly call my parents dumb? totally uncalled for yaar.
attia, so u dont know any bad apples. see i was one and am still one... so i had to hang with the bad apples.
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I wasn't calling ur parents dumb... I just cant c how they can fall for your BS but oh well...
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sara, geez you were on vacation when god was handing out sense of humor heh.
much love
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well... my good friend chewing gum man wont be marrying this gal. the whole process was too uncomforting just like some of us predicted. he couldnt talk to the girl. the family was really religious. the girls mom turned out a hijabi decendent of hitler... who spoke the ENTIRE time. i think he realized the girl is prolly like her mom and is religous. since he isnt religious at all... he decided to cut lose right after chai which he said was the best chai he had ever had.
o well.....
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The first meeting with someone doesn't have to be very indepth. You can tell alot about a person from the subtle details of what they say and what they do. Tell your friend that he should feel as though he is just meeting a new friend and not put so much pressure on himself. The email exchanges etc. can be done later. The conversation can be casual because essentially a first meeting is to determine if he likes her enough to want to know more about her. Good luck.
Oh...just read your last entry..forget it.
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Chai party for Rishtas!!!!
It has nothing to do with boy and girl or parents. It is just the tea that matters. If tea is good enough, rishta is done and until that company is in the business and providing same quality, marriage/relationship is not going to break.
All we need to know is:
Which tea is most effective? (Not from commercials but real results from some survey)
Some people use wrong brands of tea and then blame themselves or other people when things go wrong. This is negative attitude and must be discouraged at all stages. If you were not able to select appropriate brand of tea then it is just lack of information and no one must be blamed for it.