Re: rishta from a divorced man
Are you looking for a guy who has NEVER been with another girl? As in never married, never had a GF, never dated at all? You are absolutely right in saying that there is the possibility that he may compare you to his ex-wife. But what if you marry a guy who compares you to his ex-gfs? Is that something you can handle? How will you know that a unmarried guy isn’t comparing you to the girls he had dated before? And realistically…what do you think are the odds of you finding a guy who has NEVER dated, NEVER had a GF?
Whether its ex-wives or ex-gfs…remember one thing…there is a reason that woman is his “EX”. So a comparison with her doesn’t automatically mean that its a bad thing.
Since you’re aware of the fact being a “divorcee” tends to cloud people’s judgements automatically…then you also realize that your mom knowing this information will make her biased. Do you want that? Don’t you want to know what you mother really thinks about the guy…WITHOUT any prejudice?
Look…you really need to do some soul-searching (and do it fast!). Don’t lead the guy on. I think you should meet with him at least one time in person. Talk to him, ask him directly about the divorce situation, and share your concerns. And go from there. But by the time this “1st meeting” ends…you also seriously need to decide if YOU are ok with the “divorcee” thing. Unfortunately that’s not something your mom or any of us can decide for you.