Reha
April 29, 2012, 5:19pm
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Re: rishta from a divorced man
I agree with you. Leaving aside the divorce thing, I AM interested in the guy and–with lots of friends/coworkers in the medical field–I totally understand that marriages tend to fall apart a lot with someone in med school/residency ( like this guy was/is). I’m def not gonna tell my mom until things progress to the point where I feel like it’s necessary.
The most important thing for me is to figure out WHY he got divorced. I asked the mutual friend and she said that “things just didn’t work”. That’s fine if that is the reason, but I’d rather hear what he has to say about it. Also, I agree with you about not wanting to lead the guy on. He seems like a really sweet person and after having been in a position where I was hanging in limbo for a while, I would NEVER want that for someone else. That being said, would it be inappropriate for me to bring up the divorce in our initial chats (these have to be online since he lives on the opposite side of teh country)? I don’t know what’s considered taboo. I’d be much more comfortable proceeding/calling it quits once I know what happened, but I don’t want to seem overly nosy or anything like that. Any advice about that?
Thanks for all the replies btw. With my parents backwards thinking regarding divorce, it’s nice to see other views. Helped me clear my thoughts a lot more.
There’s nothing wrong with talking about history early on…its not taboo at all. But just be tactful about how you ask…try not judge and just keep an open mind.