Rishta experiences

[terebina786]

Re: Rishta experiences

@NaanGuard

In a perfect world that’s what my parents would have liked, marry me off to a cousin and or cousins daughter from pakistan. Unfortunately, I dont want someone from there. My urdu isn’t the best and i’m the type of person that makes alot of pop culture references and that stuff would go over their heads. So I’m only looking for someone from here and most girls here and are also looking for that. (Almost every profile I visit has “please only someone from US/CAN”). I’m not the type to dangle citizenships/money in front of people. It’s usually the last thing I mention.

But anyways, I also don’t think all those times I talked to girls were “failures”, more like it just didn’t work out cause of other circumstances, I’m sure girls have stopped talking to me cause of either something I said or they didn’t like something about me. It happens.

I know most girls don’t want to live with the inlaws, and thats perfectly reasonable/understandable. I do plan on living with my parents for at least the first couple years just so we can save up/pay whatever we need off to buy a house or something cause renting is a waste of money. **Some women want to move out right away and have there independence but I have also talked to women that are okay with staying with in laws, so that’s not really a point of contention. **

But I do wonder about debt and marriage, I have talked to some really amazing girls as well but they have 200-300K in debt (residency doctors, physical therapists, pharmacists in there late 20’s), they havent started working yet but that number kind of scares me.

They may be ok with staying with in-laws now, but when it happens, and your parents seem kind of overbearing (no offense), you’ll be in for a world of tug and war with both parties. Yeah renting seems like a waste, but it may save your (and your potential wife’s) sanity. Just some food for thought. There’s also a sense of freedom to not have to answer to your parents (or someone else’s) after taking such a big step (ie marriage). JMO but I was living alone before marriage.

The debt/marriage thing… if it’s school debt (ie, doctor, lawyer, etc) you better believe that they’ll be earning way more eventually to pay it off and have more than enough left over to live comfortably. But the debt thing is tricky because you really have to love the person to take on that burden in the beginning.