Rishta experiences

[NaanGuard]

Re: Rishta experiences

@Sk101

I believe when finding a wife it should be 80 percent your idea and 20 percent your parent’s idea. The iraqi sounded the best here, you should have gone for her. Even maybe gone to visit her. But if you’re gonna be living with your parents after marriage then it was probably best that you parted ways. For the first one, Med students typically let the stress of med school get to them, that along with the thousands of dollars of debt makes it good that you avoided it.

I’m curious, assuming that you live in the states from the above information and after this many failures why haven’t your parents or yourself decided to import a wife from home. Have you at least looked?. If you do, try not dangling a green card in front of their eyes.

In a perfect world that’s what my parents would have liked, marry me off to a cousin and or cousins daughter from pakistan. Unfortunately, I dont want someone from there. My urdu isn’t the best and i’m the type of person that makes alot of pop culture references and that stuff would go over their heads. So I’m only looking for someone from here and most girls here and are also looking for that. (Almost every profile I visit has “please only someone from US/CAN”). I’m not the type to dangle citizenships/money in front of people. It’s usually the last thing I mention.

But anyways, I also don’t think all those times I talked to girls were “failures”, more like it just didn’t work out cause of other circumstances, I’m sure girls have stopped talking to me cause of either something I said or they didn’t like something about me. It happens.

I know most girls don’t want to live with the inlaws, and thats perfectly reasonable/understandable. I do plan on living with my parents for at least the first couple years just so we can save up/pay whatever we need off to buy a house or something cause renting is a waste of money. Some women want to move out right away and have there independence but I have also talked to women that are okay with staying with in laws, so that’s not really a point of contention.

But I do wonder about debt and marriage, I have talked to some really amazing girls as well but they have 200-300K in debt (residency doctors, physical therapists, pharmacists in there late 20’s), they havent started working yet but that number kind of scares me.