Sk101
March 29, 2016, 6:13am
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Re: Rishta experiences
So I am currently in the Rishta hunt, Although I have found someone that I like and am talking too but not sure where that will lead because of my insanely out of touch parents but lets go down memory lane shall we. I could probably blog this but I’m bored so lets give it ago.
24 Med school student, desi, she was pretty and down to earth, but I want someone more settled down, I know with clincials in a couple years and than residency, not to mention the mountain of debt that will eventually come along. I dont mind the debt honestly but I would like to spend time with my wife to be. I just talked to her on the phone and we both naturally parted/stopped responding to each other. I got introduced to her through an uncle at a masjid
26, Iraqi, Project manager (PMP) girl, this girl was hot, she was a sushi, her dad is apparently a non practicing shia, I met her online, she had a great personality, she lived in another state, so I didn’t meet her, but we talked for about a month, I told my parents about her and they went all racist on me and be like no Arabs and there better not be any shia members in there immediate family. This is where I started learning about what my parents really wanted me to marry. When I first asked they were like, oh…“just a girl that is muslim and is educated.” They never really added these clauses/addendums, but any ways I continue on.
26 lawyer from new york, I liked the girls pictures but when we skyped, I learned those pictures were old/slightly photoshoped and she gained a couple of pounds (like 50). so on account of not being 100% upfront with pics I tend to break things off.
24 Lawyer from Ohio, she was really pretty as well, but her pictures that the rishta auntie sent me were all face shots (warning sign), so straight away went to skype and found out her pictures werent accurate either. She was also heavier as well. (I am in shape and expect the same btw, so I’m not being hypocritical…just fyi)
23 business woman from California, This didn’t work out cause of the fact she’d been in a serious relationship before and I havent dated in my life ever, looking for someone whose is as chaste as me, like talking to guys to get married, thats normal but getting physical is a no no. Met her online
27 Dentist from NY, she was crazy I think, she wanted to add me on Facebook and Instagram right away, although I do understand why, it should be down the road, not the first thing you talk about. But I guess she doesn’t want to waste/time cut to the chase, so I guess it makes sense in hindsight but probably to straightforward for me.
28 Marketing Lady- she drinks and parties, plus if my dad saw what she wear’s on the daily he would have an aneurysm.
25 Accountant - This girl was going pretty good, I think I fell in love with her, I went to meet her and everything but her parents said no to me, apparently I didn’t make enough and they didin’t like my job. It’s not a doctor/lawyer/engineer.
All of this within a couple of months too…
There are more, but heck…i’m tired of writing now, Most of the girls I do meet online will either ghost fade/stop talking. At first I didn’t think it would be hard to get married. Find a girl that you have stuff in common with and get married. Simple right? Wrong…
I believe when finding a wife it should be 80 percent your idea and 20 percent your parent’s idea. The iraqi sounded the best here, you should have gone for her. Even maybe gone to visit her. But if you’re gonna be living with your parents after marriage then it was probably best that you parted ways. For the first one, Med students typically let the stress of med school get to them, that along with the thousands of dollars of debt makes it good that you avoided it.
I’m curious, assuming that you live in the states from the above information and after this many failures why haven’t your parents or yourself decided to import a wife from home. Have you at least looked?. If you do, try not dangling a green card in front of their eyes.