(**1) **My friend found a very good rishta and things are 95% sure! But she’s still adding random guys to her FB, guys who leave creepy comments on her pictures. I’ve told her to stop adding them, but she won’t! She’s been looking long and hard for this rishta so I don’t understand what her problem is?! I don’t want her husband to be to see the comments, I think it could cause problems!
I need advice on how to tell her that it’s not a good idea! She’s found someone and she needs to stop adding random guys!
(2) I get it, if a guy is relocating from Pakistan to the west or for a love marriage. But why would a guy relocate from one western country to another? I would love to get some insight on it! I may be too backwards but I wont understand it, esp in an arranged setting.
Re: Rishta Etiquette and the guy relocating (a question for the guys!)?
1- your friend is weird. Does she have a reason for adding random guys? How old is she? If you've already advised her not to do so, then the rest is upto her. If she's old enough to get married, then she is old enough to figure out what actions are right and what wrong.
2- Why do you think there's anything wrong about moving from one Western country to another? I've seen plenty men move from Canada to U.S. or vice versa for better opportunities for work. My husband moved from North America to Europe for European work exposure and also to be able to travel around Europe.
Re: Rishta Etiquette and the guy relocating (a question for the guys!)?
(**1) **My friend found a very good rishta and things are 95% sure! I don't want her husband to be to see the comments, I think it could cause problems! .
95% sure? So your friend is not officially engaged?
At the end, it's her life and her rishta. You've already shared your concerns with her. Now let her be. You can't babysit her and continue to make sure that she doesn't do anything to cause problems with her potential fiancé/husband. That's something she'll need to learn to do on her own.
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OP, how did you "tell" her? you need to sit her down etc and TELL her, or tell her parents if you really are that worried (although this might be a crappy thing to do), does she actually like her rishta?
as for 2, I'm an EU citizen, wouldn't mind relocating to say America, canada, or australia if I get married to someone from there.
Re: Rishta Etiquette and the guy relocating (a question for the guys!)?
You said she's adding random guys, so does that mean she is the one clicking on their profile and adding them without knowing them? Or are random guys adding her and she's accepting and basically posting pics that invite others' creepy comments?
Also, if in an arranged setting the girl's parents are requesting he move countries and leave a well-established career and connections to restart where she and her family live then they should make this known right away since this is a big deal. Forget guys, this is huge for career-focused women as well. People in general -whether men or women - will be hesitant to move if they have some real good things going for them in their hometowns whether family or career-related.
Lots of people say no to proposals because they are not willing to move. Usually girls are requested to move however; it's seldom to hear the other way around especially in the West.
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Random guys is not cool. No guy would like that or tolerate it to a large extent. Just random people she has never met or spoken to on her facebook....weird.
As for moving yes guys do move for the sake of the girl depending on the needs and situations of both of them.
Re: Rishta Etiquette and the guy relocating (a question for the guys!)?
She is 24 and when I ask her why she keeps adding random guys into her FB, she says theres nothing wrong with adding guys to her FB.
I told her that I didn't think it was a great idea, as her future in-laws are quite conservative and I don't see the point in adding them. She had been looking for a rishta for the longest time, and she has finally found a good one, and I have no idea why shes doing this.
The guy is coming over one last time, so they can talk and after the meeting the engagement date will be set, in my eyes shes engaged, but her eyes "things aren't 100%"
Shes accepting requests from random guys and if she and a guy has a random convosation on a status or a friends picture, she will add that guy, even if the guy only likes her comment.
Shes been moaning and *****ing over not being able to find a rishta, she has finally found one that she says she likes, and still shes adding random dudes and I can figure out what her problem is :( ...
Would I be justified in going straight to her Parents? Or is that a no go? Maybe I could mention it to her sister?
Thanks for clarifying that! I've never seen a guy move for one western country to another, but it seems like its normal? Good to know :D Thanks!
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Why would you involve her family?
Wowwww if your were my friend who did that, I would seriously never speak with you again.
You did what you were supposed to do by talking to her. You addressed your concerns now please do not get over involved.