Rishta Demands

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Re: Rishta Demands

@ehl-e-chamman

Haq Mehr is a required legal islamic right of every married woman (and it can be in form of cash/land/jewlery etc..). The amount is to be arrived at through negotiation tween the marrying couple (i guess families as is the norm in pakistan).
Its given to the woman for her financial protection and the custom of symbolically absurd amounts (like 32 rupees or a few thousand rupees) make a mockery of an essential Islamic right. If one is to follow the spirit of the law … the amount needs to be enough to provide a woman financial viability for a few months in the current times.

• if you think the amounts being requested are too great you can always refuse to marry the girl.
• the part i highlighted is downright rude and insulting to the girl and her family. what would you prefer? that a girl be handed to you, along with massive mounts of jaheiz that she must bring and mountains of expectation that you and you family will bury her under … so you can do with her as you please without a recourse? I Thank GOD that islam is a fair religion that looks out for the well being of the woman.
• if you can not live up to the clearly defined religious marital requirements then dont get married until you can.

what would you say would be a fair amount nowadays for mehr in USA? What should it cover essentially? Housing/rent, food, clothes?

Also I may be mistaken but is there another mehr or something in islam which you have to give your wife incase of divorce?