Rishta blues, bad scene yawr

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Re: Rishta blues, bad scene yawr

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@yeswekhan Arranged marriages are not about the money actually. Arranged marriages have to rely on other more important factors besides the money..such as compatibility. Whether the two share similar likes and dislikes, have the same religion, culture ,values and beliefs etc etc etc are really important factors. And these things matter a LOT in arranged marriages because you are not technically in love with the person yet, however your similarities and or attraction towards one another’s personalities make it easier for the two to actually fall in love later down the road. What good is a chunk of land gonna do for your friend if he has "meh"chemistry with the person he has to spend the rest of his life with?! And what good will the wife’s money do to the husband if all she spends it on is herself or no one at all (Which as others have pointed out is her right)?! Its not like she’ll sell her property to start paying for mundane things such as bills and groceries -__-…Even if she does buy something that both of them can share, like a house, it will still be HER house.

I completely disagree… most of the things you mentioned like compatibility and “similar values and beliefs” don’t matter a single penny in arranged relationships. Mostly because there is not nearly enough interaction to determine such things. The most important things are finances and the compatibility of the parents issuing the rishta… if the parents like each other that’s usually good enough.

As for the OP’s friend… don’t do it bro. Marriage is a commitment… a long one. Not something you wanna rush into or do in some sort of emotionally confused state. Your friend is better off being single for a while… after a very serious and committed relationship, a little bit of time to yourself is the best cure (speaking from experience). Rushing into marriage with someone just for the potential of having some money… not worth it.

As for all the “the money belongs to the wife” posters… honestly, as true as that is… many women in our culture/community have no idea about this. They will give in to whatever their husband/parents say. There is no concept of financial independence in our culture… although this is something that requires some awareness and the potential husbands have to be more honest and fair in terms of not trying to usurp money from their wives. In general this requires the elimination of these “cash cow” type marriages, that don’t even really work in the end anyway.