is there any thing like rishta barrier (rishty main bandish) exists?
if it happens than how to get rid of this problem??
i love sumone who also loves me. but there is a problem in marriage. his mother is too old and is here at Pakistan (me also at Pakistan) and he is living abroad he said one day that he has a wish that his wife (when married) stay at his mothers place for a short period of time so that she could look her after he said he cant get such a long leave so its almost impossible for him to get here and take care of his mother. he asked me can i do this for him.
i without any hesitation said that i wud love to stay with his mother but i told him clearly that i have never been doing this kind of job. we are living separate from my grand mother(dadi). my grand mother lives with my chacho, visits us every now and then but never has stayed for a long time with us. i m not habitual to look after an old person and according to me its a tough job for me.
he said he appreciates my boldness and truthfulness but what shud he do now. i asked him if he wants to look for another girl? he said NO!
but afterward he said he is gonna ask his mother to look for a girl herself.
Secondly…my father is a patient of high BP. he went through a minor paralysis attack too. that scared him and he wants to fulfill his duty of my marriage and settlement ASAP. as you know its the wish of every parent. but due to some reasons i have faced some other rishta rejections.
accoding to an aalim there is some kind of barrier in my marriage. (Allah knows what the reality is)
Thirdly…one of my phupho’s husband asked my grandmother to ask my father for my proposal for his brother. whom i DON’T like at all. i mean..the feeling of dislike is not new i didn’t ever liked him due to some reasons that are too strong for me to think positively about him.
as i mentioned above about the issue of barrier in my rishta my parents are a bit apprehensive. they don’t want to lose this rishta.
i talked to my mother about my feelings about the guy and also told her that i like someone else.
she got done the Istekhara about the person i like. the results of that istekhara shown that the guy is good for me but there are some hurdles in rishta.
i m so much disappointed. now tell me what shud i do in such a situation.