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Now now, you're not stalking. You're keeping tabs to make sure she doesn't stray.
Gotta make sure the work lunches are strictly halal.
Food wise of course.
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There is nothing wrong in perusing a rishta steadfastly (u can call it dheet pana) if situation has changed in guy’s (or girl’s) life. Things change and so does people’s minds.
I’d not easily give up on things that I like, want to have and know that I can and will take care of it.
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^ I don’t think its dheet pana … its more of like “we have looked other rishtas didn’t get any suitable so how about go back & find from one of the rejected ones” … jab koi aur nahi mila tu waapis aa gaye 
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OP if I were yoou I would have rejected that rishtas right away … I have a big ego
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^ dont know what are you talking about. Rishtas does not work (or should not work) like this.
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interesting topic.
happened with my khala. my grandfather refused the first time and agreed the second time. and now i have three cousins.
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Have you ever said no to a proposal but some time later the proposal comes again? I mean has anyone experienced a situation where they've said no to the guys family but sometime later they ask again? My friend is in a similar situation and I'm finding it really weird
yup.
lets not make it an ego issue. situation changes, priorities changes....
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friends situation and you are finding it weird.
So weird.
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Many! Just a couple of stores I know firsthand:
1. My dad asked for my moms hand for 5 years and moms dad kept saying no (a lot of this has to do with his cultural background bc they try to play hard to get and toughen the process for the guy so he'd appreciate the daughter more... Crazy I know). Additionally, dad and mom had a 12 year age difference and were from different cultural backgrounds. Anyway, dad kept finding mutual contacts and acquaintances to vouch for him until grandpa finally agreed. Later, nana was so impressed by dad's character and the way he treated my mom that he agreed to marry two other daughter to guys with very similar backgrounds.
Even though mom and dad got to spend only 10 years together before dad passed away, everyone who witnessed the marriage say it was one of the most beautiful relationships they had seen.
A cousin of mine who wanted to marry a Bengali guy and her dad was completely against it. The guy kept sending rishta, and kept getting rejection after rejection. The dad had a stroke bc of the stress and anxiety over the issue. He finally agreed when he saw that neither the daughter or the guy are willing to back out. The couple now have two kids and are very happy together. After a few years, her brother in law sent rishta for another cousins and it was a go right away because of how happy the other cousin is.
My best friend was introduced to a guy through family and they were both talking to see if it would work out. The guy was "perfect" in every way possible; the entire community would sing his praises. He had the perfect job, education, looks, character, religious etc. Friend was really sure this was leading to something and kept rejecting other rishtas including one from a very nice guy "X" without thinking twice. The other guy she was talking to asked for some time because needed to "think through some things". She waited for about a year and then found out he had gotten engaged to another girl from our community who was completely different than him. Since he was "religious", he kept stressing on wanting a very pious, hijabi wife etc., and ended up marrying a very liberal girl who wore short skirts, went to clubs etc. Everyone in the community was surprised. Meanwhile, my friend had no way of contacting "X" and really regretted not giving him a chance even though his family was very persistent in the beginning. As luck would have it, "X" contacted her randomly on Facebook (this is about 2 years after he had proposed), they started talking and really clicked. They've been happily married for 5 years now.
As for the supposed religious guy who married the bimbo, not surprisingly, they got divorced 6 months after the wedding and the girl ran away with a 30k ring and a brand new Mercedes he had bought her. It got so bad that he had to get a restraining order against her. Now here's the crazy twist to this triangle. We had another mutual friend "A" who was also best friends with this bimbo chick, and a LOT like her (was very liberal etc). The whole time that my friend was hurting when he married the bimbo, "A" kept consoling her telling her what a jerk that guy was for misleading her and how badly he was treating his wife and that she should get over him because he wasn't worth it. Guess what, a few months after that guy got divorced, "A" ended up marrying him!!! They now have 2 kids with a third on the way.